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Reject labels! Or embrace labels! Do as you wish as long as you respect others!
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Yes, sometimes labels are too constrictive, and not perfect for everyone. But when people say queer people are obsessed with labels, or "I'm not cis; I'm normal", what they're almost certainly taking issue with is non-cisheteronormativity being recognized and validated. When the only labels are normal and not normal, it's much easier to silence and marginalize those you believe are outside the norm.
I think that I don’t want people calling me cis and I don’t want to talk about it. I also think that if labels help someone else out I will use whatever pronouns they prefer.
Its just like, what other word should we use than cisgender? We can say people whose gender matches their one assigned at birth I guess but that gets annoying. In certain contexts the cisgender label just makes discussion easier.
I think there's a distinction that can and should be drawn between descriptors and labels. Most people fit the descriptor "cisgender" but you'll be hard-pressed to find someone using it as an identity label.
Likewise, looking at definitions, non-binary genders are usually included under the trans umbrella, but many non-binary folks, myself included, don't necessarily use trans as a label. If someone is talking about the trans community, I still relate and feel included in the conversation, but I don't use the word as a label for myself.