There are plenty of multiplayer games I adore. However, it seems like every community has these "brain dead", patronizing, or out right toxic elements that are just nasty. I'd rather debate politics than make suggestions in some gaming communities because the responses are just so ... annoying.
As an example, I once dared to suggest that a game developer implement a mode to prevent crouched status from rendering on death cams so that players that are bothered by t-bagging could avoid it (after a match where a friend rage quit because someone just kept head shotting him -- possibly with cheats -- and then t-bagging). This post got tons of hate, and like -50 upvotes on reddit because of course someone should be forced to watch someone t-bag them.
Another example on a official game forum... I made a forum post suggesting Bungie use Mastodon (or really just something else being my intent)... The response I got was some positivity but mostly just "lol nobody uses that sweetie" and other patronizing comments.
Meanwhile studios themselves often seem to be filled with developers that understand this stuff is a problem, and the lack of sportsmanship (or generally civilized attitudes) does push away players. It just doesn't make sense to me that no studio is saying "get lost" to these elements or implementing anti-toxicity features. I just want to play games with nice normal people, is that really so much to ask?
if you get angry at people in a video game I think it’s time to step away from the game. While I think action should be taken against hate speech and racism a little trash talk in competitive games is par for the course. Personally I think tea-bagging is hilarious even when done against me. I also usually mute anyone not in my group so I don’t hear annoying people screaming which can be done in any modern game.
"If someone pushes your buttons repeatedly to try and tick you off, and it does or you just generally don't like it, you're the problem ... it's just a video game"
I don't buy this argument... and characteristically that's the exact argument you're making. If it didn't work other people wouldn't be in here defending it as a "mind game."
This has been sorted out in other competitive spaces, there's no reason gaming has to be this way.
You can mute everyone from every game made in the last 20 years. If tea-bagging pushes your buttons so much the only solution you find is to ask the dev to remove crouching; then yes, you need to look within and work on your anger problems. Should probably step away from the game as well.
I literally just listed one where you couldn't that was released within the last 10.
Didn't ask for that.
What you're describing is usually called "looking the other way" and bullies thank you for the support