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I neeeeeed this thread. One item that has worked well for me is the female tank top. It can be a subtle change.
Are you talking layering? Any examples? Fem clothing can be overwhelming with variation in stuff called the same thing 😅
Or, I just don't know the right terms and over generalize 🤷♀️
Right now it's 75° farenheit everyday so no, I'm not layering haha. I usually wear a tank tee and shorts with a belt and sneakers, it's not unfit for a male but it's been a step towards femininity.
I feel ya on the overwhelm. I own plenty of fem items that I love but don't really work into my wardrobe at all or actually don't fit my body type. So my best luck has been in the basics. Shorts, tank tops from old navy. Plain t-shirt dresses and "boy fit" panties from hanes. I play with the height of my socks a lot, wearing calf socks, and hiking socks. This makes me stand out, and isn't like more feminine but rather more fun.
75°! 🤣 It just recently got back below that at night where I am. Last week was basically 100 every day and 80 every night!
I see what you mean the tank tee, and the T shirt dress! I've been considering stuff like the dress, but more of sleep shirts(not sure how different they really are). Some comfy loungey stuff. I do have a satiny sleep shirt that is currently probably my favorite piece of clothing, also I guess happens to be my first/only one. I did intend on doing the Unix socks thing 😂 but they didn't fit. "one size" definitely doesn't "fit all" and that's what most seemed to be. I did find a place called something like "dream socks" that has better sizing, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
Yes! Yeah the sleep shirts thing is the exact same. Very comfy and loungey.
I too have to buy plus size socks. I ended up buying Skater Tube Socks from... Bontrager? Found them on Amazon. And I buy calf-high dress socks for men since they are just in mainstream style, yet flambouyant as fuck. Love it. I also have some very vibrant plus-size leggings from Hue that I have worn under shorts before.
Oh yeah and I like to wear leather shoes, especially these slip-on oxfords and loafers. They are so feminine. Made for men, though.
You know, I hadn't noticed so many "feminine" "men's" things before, I'm definitely going to be looking for it now! An then I'm going to remember Franzia! 🤣
Omg yay! I hope our collective community knowledge saves you some time, and of course we are all happy to share more tips and tricks about the journey if needed.