It’s dictator syndrome. There’s always going to be a subset of the population that, after acquiring the faintest whiff of power or authority, seizes it like a drowning man.

I think it's the pressure and the solo developer model

You put something out. It seems to be running. There are bugs. You fix them. There are more bugs (pareto is a PITA). You fix them too. Someone accuses you of sacrificing kittens in the basement. There are ideas for features and more bugs. Some worded in an entitled or just tone-deaf way. Very often you're the only one working on the project and saying "I accept PRs" somehow became received as a FU. It becomes hard to put the project away for just a week
You are perpetually in "I-fix-it" mode
Not to mention that in order to even start a project like that one needs to have at least a bit of "fuck it, I'll do it myself" mentality

It's a pity that !unfinishedprojects@forum.unfinishedprojects.net wound down. I hoped it might have been a space for projects to find communities. As we see around, it doesn't require a 10 person team with a kanban board to write something that works. But on the other side of the spectrum I think a project needs some sort of community around it. So even if there's only one dev, someone else could write the tutorials, less technical parts of docs, help new deployments etc

Being an open source dev requires thicker skin than you'd think, and even thinker than most people have.

Either you go the community route where you build a loyal user base, listen to feedback, and have q community of contributors as well.

Or you go the 'I made something cool for me, and its open so anyone can use it too!'

The former is sustainable, the later is not if you domt maintain the idea that its yours first and only.

Once you start half listening to people using your stuff, but believe what you want is right, starts to isolate you.

You think all your users are stupid for their feature requests, because you don't need it. Plus you alone are in charge. Its your repo.

This ego can continue to inflate to this point. I've seen it in both closed and open source (anyone remever when the FSLabs A320 for Microsoft flightsim with malware? Just me?... Okay).

But this is by no means new.

Speaking as a nearly lifelong developer of one kind or another, with ASD and ADHD... there's a big ol' overlap. I'm not talking "the venn diagram is a circle" level overlap, but it is significant. Lots of people with these traits have personality quirks, differences in socioemotional processing from the "typical" stuff, experiences in early life, and other things, that can cause some pretty intense rabbit holing/spiraling when things get overwhelming.

To be clear though, this guy is obviously just a major dipshit. Nobody deserves being lumped in with that.

Do you think it's skill or just vibe code?