This is an admin post, intended for blahaj lemmy users. Top level posts from members of other instances will be removed.
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Edit - Hexbear announced plans to deferedate from us.
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~~After recent events, it feels to me that sentiment has shifted and more people are asking for defederation of hexbear than previously~~
~~I've been doing my best to try and mend bridges and keep us connected, as it's my hope that we can maintain trans solidarity and work with them, despite the friction, however, ultimately, I feel that this is an issue for the blahaj lemmy community to decide, not the admins alone~~
~~So here's what we're going to do~~
~~We're going to leave things as they are for a week. That will give time for things to calm down whilst we see if we can work together. After a week, I'll put up a vote and get a feel for where the community is at in regards to our continued federation with hexbear. That poll will run for a week. If there is a strong will to defederate (a clear majority), then that's what we will do~~
that's true. it's better that we've made our own post for instance-only discussion. Idk I don't blame the reaction since it puts them in a tough spot where they feel inclined to defend themselves. but aside from a post literally being about them I haven't seen them interact aggressively much on our instance.
I would not describe the comments on that post as defensive. Ada initially said we wouldn't defed as there hadn't been any issues, so there wasnt really anything they needed to defend themselves from. Everything they commented was aggressive and filled with vitriol. Even the comments regarding our instance over on hexbear are just rude.
Ok sure, but my point is that's NOT what was happening in that thread. Hexbear wasn't just like "oh hey now we're not all bad" or "I don't know what behavior you're complaining about". They attacked Ada, Blahaj as a whole, and were just generally aggressive and unpleasant
And they're still doing it both in this community and over on their own instance.