Points taken what I will say is pronouns aren't top of mind with any of us. If anything I'm pretty big on using "buddy" which in this day and age is pretty gender neutral. Beyond that think of it as, he's a kid, I'm providing the safe space for him to be able to advocate for himself. If he wants me to use pronouns I will, but he needs to raise it. Not because I don't want to, but because he knows I love him unconditionally so he has an opportunity to show growth in himself and advocate that.

In all honesty he's shown far more growth than I did at his age all things considered.