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We really are scared sometimes
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I don't miss my teenage years. I don't miss cars passing real slow in the summertime when my arms and legs were bare, old men asking my name and where I lived, or just whistling as they passed. I memorized fake answers to the most common questions because they always got angry when I refused. I started carrying a knife in my boot just in case.
What's funny is I haven't had that sort of attention in a long long looong time. But in Asia, every time I pass a cafe where there's a group of men, I get an invitation to join them for a drink.
And I've fallen right back into old habits - give them a smile and wave, with apologetic body language, but carefully maintain a distance and carrying on walking.
If it wasn't so hot I could wear a baggy T-shirt and trousers, and I wouldn't get any of this.
In most places in Asia you're in a lot less physical danger than in North America, but it's still unnerving and off-putting as Hell when that happens, yes.
Yeah, I haven't felt in any real danger, even when walking around at night in places without any street lights ... but I was surprised that my old reactions came back automatically.
Absolutely this. And now be in one of the ethnic groups that is the most popular fetish among North American men… There's a reason Dad taught me how to use knives.
I can't even imagine, but you've got my knife, too.
And my axe?
Sure you can! Just watch any Japanimation fan! 😆
Oh, my naive innocence when I was in middle school and would ride my bike, cars would honk, and I'd think, "Am I too close to the road?" But it would happen even when I was on the sidewalk, and I was just confused...
I recognise that, I myself wear a ring (appearing to be married) and have a form of pepperspray with me.