I've found the time to work through these two books this month ... I wanted a refresher in case I got rusty or wasn't considering something important.

I realised about halfway through Slut that I'd read a previous version a long time ago. At that time I was fresh into the idea of good poly, and some of it I recognised as things I do, so I must have absorbed some info at the time.

Reading it now, though, both books are intensely focussed on an outlook of poly and kink that feels old fashioned and intensely American to me. There were some good tips, but to be honest it felt like half the content was self congratulation.

Of course, it's possible that to a newbie poly person in the US Slut might be just the thing they need, but I personally wouldn't recommend it to others.

Any thoughts?