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Sharing your opinions of how others chose to dress or act is weird unless you are doing it to influence others. Trying to influence people by belittling them is rude.
You could be saying it about how someone dresses, or dances, or what bike they chose to ride.
It is unfortunate that men belittling women about their makeup is so pervasive in our culture that after at least three generations of people highlighting how hurtful it is, people still think their right to state their opinion of random people is more important than people's right to go through their day without being accosted.
What do any of those things have to do with the conversation. They didnt understand why men sharing an opinion about women's makeup was a problem. I explained my view of it.
Life is unfair and people can be mean isn't a justification its just whataboutism cope. Rather than actually letting people consider that maybe their behavior has hurt people you are helping them justify it because people maybe somewhere other people were mean to some other person probably.
How common is it that random people just tell women on face these things? Asking out of genuine curiosity
It’s usually not complete strangers, but friends and partners: “you look better with less makeup”, “why are you wearing that?”, “see you look good without makeup!”, “are you OK, you look sick?”, “what’s wrong, are you sad?”
Well that's definitely a take. People can't have experiences of others and share them.
You really aren’t getting it eh? People are literally spelling it out for you and you’re still completely dodging the point.
I just don't agree with it. People experience others and have every right to share how they experience the world around them, even if that hurts someone's feelings. No one has a right to never hear an opinion that makes them feel bad. You're not children, you're adults.
My experience is that you would come off as a lot more approachable online if you used less words. You might think that using all those words covers up your flaws but I think you could use a lot less words and be your authentic self and people would like being around you more.
You make a lot of assumptions to make yourself feel better.
Having a preference and whining are not the same thing.
Things that are fine to say in relevant social contexts:
Things that are creepy to say in any context:
See this sounds like whining to me. How does one tell the difference?
I think if you can't tell the two categories apart you should talk about it with a healthcare professional. I don't know what it's called in English, but there exists a type of therapy focused on teaching and developing skills that could be helpful.
This is valid:
This is needlessly insulting:
What stray said but also omg, please write more clearly. Write full sentences and don't put random sentence breaks in places they don't belong. I assume this is a second language issue and I apologize but it needs grammar work and as long as you're being rude you can at least be easy to read.
I'm sorry, that sounds awfully close to whining about women wearing makeup.
God forbid someone have an opinion on makeup that isn't positive! Stone them!
“I prefer it when you don’t shave your legs”. So? Keep it to yourself weirdo, I’m not doing it for you.
You got me being a narcissist from just that?
You wouldn’t find that comment really weird from anyone you’re not sexually involved with? Yeah obviously it’s different when it’s a partner, but that’s not what we’re talking about. Unsolicited advice on how I groom myself is creepy to me. I think you’d find it creepy too, which is why I tried to give a more relatable example. Evidently that makes me a narcissist, jesus. Can’t talk about anything.
A salient and compassionate perspective.
Nobody is talking to you, though, or any specific woman, just women in general. That you equate 'I prefer women who shave their legs." with "Shave your legs, atomicrange!" shows some kind of thought pattern, for sure. Or maybe less thought and more feelings.
People do talk to individual specific women this way. That’s what we’re talking about.
It’s not that you’re misunderstanding or being uncharitable or there’s a miscommunication, it’s because I’m not thinking, I’m just a dumb woman only feelings no thoughts head empty. Thanks for the valuable discussion, love trying to give a perspective and being met with condescension.
That may be what you have reduced the discussion to, a personal experience, but the op comment spoke generally, not specifically, as did I. So we are not talking about the same thing. At what point did you start thinking specifically, and not generally?
If your beleifs don't come from a well reasoned argument, from where else but feelings would your thoughts arise?
Sorry, I’m incapable of discussing this due to my lack of reasoning. Obviously I’m too emotional because I tried to offer an example of what this might be like to experience that men might find it easier to relate to. What a stupid brainless thing of me to do. Sorry my beliefs (what were they again? That it would be weird if some rando commented on your appearance?) are idiotic and based in pure emotion not rational thought. Gross.
Being defensive is your choice. I'll leave you to it.
I’m merely intimidated by your superior intellect. I really wish you’d impart more of your wisdom on us. Please, tell us more about how stupid we are for finding things some men do annoying. I’m learning so much from your superior logical brain.
I like you lol
Not all men, but definitely you
That's the kind of prejudiced reasoning that makes the mess to begin with.
It's not prejudiced to judge someone for their actual actions
And what have you concluded about me from these alleged actions?
That you have an impressive talent in accumulating downvotes 😬
Honestly? That you have difficulty stating things in a way that people will interpret as you intend. Or that you're trolling.
Found the manchild who cannot get it up. Sad.
Oh, attack the assumed sexual capabilities of your target, very original.
God forbid a woman doesn't want to hang out with you.
(repeat for all women until no woman wants to hang out with you)
Are you implying I suggested otherwise? I support a woman's right to choose, as I do a man's.