I figured since their admin has asked them to stop participating over here it may be worthwhile to get a new discussion going that is primarily blahaj. I'm almost certain they'll still be upvoting so keep that in mind as that may skew things. Worthwhile to check in from instances that have already defederated them. The previous thread definitely left a bad taste in my mouth but what do y'all think?
Old thread can be found here
EDIT: With regards to the post on new federation guidelines here: https://hexbear.net/post/352119
The current top comment is:
Every instance that has talked shit and got dogpiled should be thanking us for breathing some life into their dead and boring ass websites.
I'd honestly still prefer defederation. If they were malignant on their own instance that's one thing, but they made this instance feel pretty unwelcome to me, and I've seen way too many red flags to be able to be comfortable having them around. Trans solidarity is no reason to put up with abuse. I know I'm not really an active participant here so this is more or less meaningless to most, but I'd rather leave and go through my transition alone than to stay and have to deal with their terminally online behavior. I don't think it should be our responsibility to rehabilitate them, nor do I think that's possible given the relative size of our instances.
Edit: I also feel it's worth pointing out that they've been defederated from several other instances for malignant behavior and I've seen all of that here.
Edit 2: Just saw we're staying federated with them, so it looks like this is my stop. To all of the fine people here at blåhaj.zone, thanks so much for being a bunch of cool people, I never really chimed in but you all just living your lives helped me figure out a lot of stuff about myself, and I wish you all nothing but the best! I can't stay a member of an instance that welcomes tankies though, so happy trails.