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Looking for saphic BDSM starter guide (self.womensstuff)
submitted 1 week ago by SharkWeek to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
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So, this is not for me, but for my wife ... long story short, she's never done this before, but has met a nice but very subby lady and wants to try some b/d d/s (but definitely no s/m).

I've tried talking her through, and demonstrating, some basic stuff, but she said it's weird learning from me ... I've given her my old copy of Learning the Ropes, but outside of that everything I've found online seems to just be porn rather than an instruction manual.

Does anyone know of additional resources for this?

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[-] SharkWeek 2 points 1 week ago

Non existent, nearest place with stuff going on is about 1.5 hours away ... also, my wife isn't ready for any sort of group like that - this is her first forray into kink and only the second time she's ever taken a second lover.

Yesterday we did manage to have some discussions about basic concepts, though, so she is loosening up :-)

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