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Feeling conflicted (skirts) (lemmy.zip)
submitted 4 days ago by SkyeMors@lemmy.zip to c/mtf
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So I'm 30mtf (generally- on meds for a bit now, gender is confusing), and I'm into clothing and style, comfort and stuff- so I figured that maybe skirts would be great! So I ordered two- a short-ish one and a long-ish one, in case one doesn't feel right.

But of course, the short one arrived first. It's a pleated black tennis skirt, so it's a little rigid and has a (skort? shorts but under the skirt for modesty).... and.... not for me (yet?), sadly. I've worn jeans and sweatpants and shorts and such that I as a guy could just... wear, normally. So anyway, tried it on, it's a fine fit, but.... my ass has never felt so exposed, I'mma be honest. And it wasn't even, it's just the lack of tightness just under the buttocks that skirts just don't do, making it feel super weird for me even though it was a mostly modest length of skirt. Hopefully the longer one (with belt loops!) feels better- it's about ankle-length by my estimate, and flowy and.... I think it's teal? I forget. It gets here in a week or so. Maybe eventually I'll be able to wear it around the house, but... ah, I bromode too much to try being cute or wear anything cute in public (yet).

so thanks for coming and reading me ramble about my new skirt, hope it was entertaining enough for a few minutes :3

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[-] Nissa@lemmy.world 9 points 4 days ago

Thank you for sharing, you have come to the right place! Skirts and dresses definitely feel more exposed than pants for sure. You are so used to that extra fabric right up against your back side. Now the air can freely flow, it almost feels like you're naked. There is definitely a learning curve to it, and if you like the way you look you'll get used to it.

I felt the same way when I donned my first skirt, but as soon as I looked in the mirror I stopped caring. Now it's all about not accidentally flashing people (just my wife for now but still). Learning to fold my skirt underneath me when sitting was step one. Learning to bend at the knees, legs together, back straight was step two. If there's a step three, I haven't learned it yet.

That being said, you don't have to wear skirts or dresses to be feminine. There are tons of options, what's right for me doesn't have to be what's right for you. My wife is a horse girl, all jeans or sweats, tee shirts, hoodies. Doesn't like jewelry, doesn't do makeup. I'm the girly one in our relationship and that's fine. Do what makes you happy, your happiness is all that matters.

Feel free to drop by anytime. We will be here, excited to hear how things are going and to answer any questions you may have!

[-] SkyeMors@lemmy.zip 3 points 4 days ago

Yeah, just like with my first bra, I'm thankful I've been apparently making note of how to do things with certain clothes- wore my skirt for a few hours, went to sit down and immedietely folded it under without thinking, so... maybe I need to borrow my rommate's full-length mirror...

this post was submitted on 13 May 2026
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