It isn't mother's day where I live or where I'm from, but my partner is American. She knows I'm trans but still sees herself as the mother and deserving of all the mothers day things like breakfast in bed and freedom from domestic chores for the day etc (At least that's what I did for my mother growing up).

Problem is that she suffers from chronic pain and I make her breakfast in bed every day and do all the cooking, cleaning, etc every day. I change all the nappies, apply all the plasters to cuts, take the kids to every doctor/dentist appointment, do all the shopping, go to all the PTA meetings, as well as trying to make her as comfortable as possible throughout the day.

That isn't even the main issue though. The children still see me as "dad". Not their fault, I haven't said anything to them about being trans (I have my reasons). But, they also see me as a source of infinite work and refuse to do anything at all about picking up after themselves. So my workload doesn't change for anything. I'm constantly cleaning and tidying, making food, etc.

When I ask them to put the stuff they used for making mother's day cards for their "actual mother" (who, to reiterate, doesn't really do any actual mothering), they just make the place messier and refuse to do anything to help. I managed to make the 6 year old put her pens away but it took 20 minutes of continuous nagging for her to start. And then she half-arsed it and left a bunch of the pens lying around the living room floor.

I don't need anything like cards or cake or anything like that, but it would be nice if people weren't trying to make my task impossible. I'm one person and nobody acknowledges my contribution.

It feels really shitty.