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I've had a bit of a rough go with it in terms of being raised in a bad environment, not properly socialised properly early in life, and to top it off my partner of 7 years just ended things because of some pretty nasty issues between us that I felt were perfectly fixable.

Everything as it is, I've started having issues with feelings of being disposable. Like I don't matter, like I'm nothing and I can't expect people to stick around, like they're waiting for a reason to abandon me.

On a logical level that doesn't hold much water, but at this point I'm starting to wonder how to fight these feelings if they come from very factual places. How can I justify the thought that I inheritly have worth, if the reality of the situation is that I keep being treated like garbage.

I'm doing all the right stuff, seeing a psych, prioritising recover, actually have a pretty decent inner voice going, but the feelings are still really strong and it's hard to fight them. I'm not really sure how to handle this.

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[-] RedSeries 3 points 2 days ago

You absolutely deserve connection with others, we all do. There's an expectation that you and I have that really hurts us and makes that hard to accept though. I wish I had more concrete or resonating advice to give. Honestly it was a lot of therapy and work just to get to where I am.

You deserve connection and you deserve love.

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