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How do you learn about beauty, fashion, makeup?
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I just keep trying stuff and people have generally liked what I do. Don’t know what I’m doing right since I just do what I want to do. But oh well. My style is for me mostly and everyone else is an afterthought.
ah, I do like to use makeup to feel pretty for myself, but I think I'd be lying if I said it was only for myself - I definitely dress and style according to what is appropriate for my age, gender, etc. and in a real way is a "social" behavior, mediated through other people. But I don't think this is a bad thing, and if anything it helps situate me within a social group, which I feel is much better than only ever thinking in terms of myself.
At least for me I do it for myself because I already get weird looks from people for using a cane at my age. So I just kinda started to putting more emphasis on what I wanted, rather than what others wanted. It’s still all what fits the gender I identify myself with, and all stuff that people my age do wear. Just put together in a way I want it to, not what others might want.
that makes sense, you already "stick out" in a sense and can't conform as easily to social expectations, so why not lean into it - the alienation you experience leaves you less motivated to cater to social pressures
Thanks for the explanation, that makes sense 💜