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Why wouldn’t you want to get married
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this post was submitted on 10 Feb 2026
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No problem, well al have opinions. It can help to make it clear when it's just that, though, as it will probably avoid having some people feel angry or cheated or whatever (I suppose it is the reason why your post was downvoted?).
And to anyone wondering, yes, I would be more than interested to read more about that kind of studies... if only, because I'm skeptical about it and don't mind being proven wrong.
And, yes, this time half-trolling but half only, I would feel devastated realizing I'm shortening my lifelong (25+ years and counting) partner's life expectancy just by being her partner.
Edit: maybe this (image at the end of the link) is a valid study showing the hell men (and boys) create for women (and teens)? Sorry, it's just I can never get enough of this comics ;)
Here's something you can read:
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7452000/
For what it's worth, what I've always read was that both men and women live longer if married, but the increase in lifespan is bigger for men than women.
Personally, I don't think my wife would be better off. She's disabled and can't work. She basically got fucked over by genetics.
While it was nowhere near as bad as it is now when she was in her 20's and 30's, the only times she was actually symptom free was when she was pregnant.
I put plenty of hedges (is that a real expression? hedged my answer?) when answering the opposite question, and didn't feel like doing the same this time. I'll live with the consequences, haha.
But thanks for the fact check! Good thing one of us wasn't lazy about it today.