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[-] SharkWeek 4 points 1 day ago

It didn't occur to me at all, but then I've previously lived in a Muslim community and dated Muslim women.

For many non-practicing or casual Muslims it's culture rather than religion, but the two can be tied up together tightly and hard to unbind from one's worldview. The same goes for us all.

[-] dandelion 4 points 1 day ago

yeah, my rigidity about this is tied up in bad assumptions about the relationship of religion and culture - I interpret people as having beliefs that are in contradiction, rather than seeing the way that everyone lives in a cultural context and are influenced by it, regardless of their individual beliefs.

In my context, for example, my feminism runs up against cultural norms like modesty - is that because I'm religiously Christian and a hypocrite? No, I'm not a Christian with Christian beliefs, but I've been influenced by cultural norms informed by Christian religious doctrine and dogma.

So I know my reaction to the Muslim hypocrisy is itself hypocritical and ignorant. Maybe I'll return to that show, I've changed a lot since I first watched it and maybe I can enjoy it now 😄

[-] SharkWeek 3 points 1 day ago

You can choose how to react, too ... for me, when I was living that, it was a case of "this is how it is, and my getting frustrated at the women's entrance to the mosque isn't going to change any minds or help", so I took a step back and just accepted it.

I could write a lot more about this, last night my wife had a panic attack while we were in a Maroqui café, which we went to because of watching series 2 and her wanting to let go of the negativity towards Muslims she was raised with ... she ended up chatting happily to some of the locals by the end of the night, so progress is possible :-)

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