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[-] Diva@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

it really sucks that the largest trans communities aren't federated.

I really resent the cis people showing up to spread obvious lies. it was hexbear that first defedded blahaj because of the toxic behavior primarily from the 196 mods.

[-] MummysLittleBloodSlut 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I'm rly glad Hexbear defederated Blahaj because I just don't have the bandwidth to deal with those people most of the time. I always feel unsafe around them as a trans woman, and it's not just the mansplaining and the pig poop balls

[-] Diva@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

I always feel unsafe around them as a trans woman

can you elaborate, because as a trans woman I've not felt unsafe at all.

[-] MummysLittleBloodSlut 1 points 1 month ago

Any time I said something they disagreed with on a shared community, I got dogpiled with "um, ackshually" style responses or even called a CIA agent. It felt like a hostile and unforgiving place, where I had to measure up to their standards or I'd just be punished. It was easy to feel like I'd be called a slur if I said something about my experiences as a woman they didn't like. I stayed quiet about that sort of stuff when I saw them in a thread because I didn't feel like I could be open, I stuck to things that were less personal to me.

[-] Diva@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

It was easy to feel like I’d be called a slur if I said something about my experiences as a woman they didn’t like.

Weird, because they ban people for that. I've been called plenty of hostile shit voicing my experiences as a trans woman in shared lemmy spaces too, and it's not from hexbear users.

[-] mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago

You know what? Fair.

I don't like Hexbear, but r/196 was a toxic cesspool on Reddit, and I've always tried to stay clear of the Lemmy version because of it

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