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Marriage is FOMO
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this post was submitted on 13 Sep 2025
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My partner and I are committed, and want to get married. Can't for financial reasons.
We both have to go to the hospital every once in a while (bad health). I fear for the time I am barred from seeing her because it is "family only" and I am legally a stranger.
Life is short, there are pretty affordable ways to get married if you arent attached to the idea of having a huge wedding. Another thing is that legally in many states, if you live with your partner and share finances long enough you are considered to be common law married. Usually its in the neighborhood of 3-4 years.
But either way, some states (if youre in the US) allow you to self solemnize your wedding amongst yourselves. You dont even have to have a courthouse wedding. Honestly the norm of spending ungodly amounts of money to marry each other is overrated, IMO
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I didn't marry my ex, 4 kids, over 20 years, we were a family. There should be (there were for us) forms you can fill out to give each other access for medical information and also to set each other as the responsible party if you are incapable. You don't have to be married. We had to get something notarized, that was all. Find out if you can do that where you are.
(a) depends on the country and (b) is always slower and more complicated than when married.
Say your partner gets hospitalized and isn't concious. As a married person you have the same last name and done. As an unmarried person like you say, you first have to go hompe, find that notarized paper, convince the hospital lawyer that it means and likely you will have to repeat the process for each new hospital stay.