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Okay, it's obvious you either don't care about getting better or you're just the worst troll. You won't actually engage with a single point I've presented. While I certainly wish you would listen, that's not up to me, is it?
Points you’ve presented:
Stop caring
Get therapy
Wow, so help! I’d never heard any of those things before! I’ll make sure to use the credit cards my ex maxed out after torturing me for two weeks to pay for a therapist right away!
Oh hey, engagement. I'm sorry that I'm unable to think of a way to articulate that without sounding sarcastic, but I do sincerely appreciate actual engagement.
Uh, no. While I believe I didn't even suggest such a thing, I will also acknowledge that it's possible I didn't adequately articulate my primary point. In no way will I ever say to just stop caring, as that's unrealistic, counterproductive, and just plain silly. My primary point, especially as it relates to the original post, is to accept reality as it is-WITHOUT inserting an opinion. Your feelings will happen no matter what. You can't let them dictate your response, but you also can't make them go away. The point isn't to stop caring, but to redirect what you care about with full cognitive intent. The point is to focus on what you control and to use what you control to influence your desired outcome.
I mean, maybe? I thought my mentioning of therapy was more of a presentation of an option rather than a primary point, but once again I acknowledge that communication is a two way street and I must do my best to clearly articulate my point. To be clear, I don't think therapy is technically necessary and I didn't directly suggest it as I had considered a similar point as to what you have made about the monetary cost. Honestly, what they would ultimately be doing in therapy is to try to change the way you frame things by focusing on what you control. There are multiple approaches, but it usually involves figuring out what core beliefs you have that lead you to the targeted bad outcomes and challenging those core beliefs. This is certainly something you can do on your own, but therapy can help build the skills and awareness to do it effectively. But, once again, therapy isn't technically necessary for such a thing.
I think it's important for me to reiterate in a manner I believe to be very clear: The point is to engage with reality. The point is to confront your feelings. The point is to self-reflect with honesty. You don't control what happens to you, but you do have control over your reaction to it. If your focus is on the circumstances, then you will forever be a victim to those circumstances. Yes, things happened to you, just and unjust, but what are you going to do about it?
Yep, I just need to accept the reality where I have zero rights and can’t get a job because I’m a tranny.
Can you just stop?
You got to sleep on a mattress last night. I am so sick of hearing this shit from people who haven’t fucking been raped.
Oh, okay, now you're just assuming things about what I have or haven't been through? That's extremely arrogant of you. I don't know you and I don't know what all you've been through, so I do my best to not make any assumptions, I'd appreciate it if you'd extend the same courtesy back.
Regardless of what happens to any one person, they have control over their reaction to it. You keep comparing your life to others, but what good is that? You got dealt a shit hand while others do evil and thrive, it happens every day. Hell, story of my life, too. The difference is what you do about it. You know what I do about it? I do my best to help others never have to go through the same bullshit. Whether or not I fail is not up to me, but whether or not I try is.
What I find interesting is that you started this post and are free to disengage whenever you want, yet you haven't. Why is that?
I think you've articulated your point well and have solid advice! I think the whole thread was a rant and they didn't want any advice though. You were trying to help out but that's just not what they wanted/ needed to hear right now. So your viewpoints just clashed because of that.
Well, I appreciate your vote of confidence. I'd like to point out that OP started the post asking for advice and continues to engage with everything despite appearing to only want to rant. It's possible that what I've said is indeed not what they want/need, but it's also possible that it's exactly what they want/need. Whether or not they're receptive isn't up to me, but whether or not I try is. And that's exactly my point.