He said it was exhausting always feeling like he was going to be outed.

This is definitely something that feels all too common with queer people. I know it's certainly how I felt before coming out as trans, to where I'd want to share memes with my friend group but constantly policed myself worrying that somehow it would "tip them off" somehow. I was in a weird place of being extremely invested in trans issues while also being pretty transphobic at times, basically so no one would think I was so interested because I was trans or anything.

It definitely all led to a lot of tension and anger and a very poor state of mental health overall, and just fucking sucked having to put on such a shitty persona all the time to try and hide my true self.