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submitted 1 week ago by choihanna@lemmy.zip to c/askmen@lemmy.world

So before anything I'm a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I'd like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I've been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don't understand what they want.

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[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago

What does take charge mean? I date older men, I'm sorry but if a 40 year old man wants to be taken care of by someone half their age... Sorry but that's not the kind of man I'm looking for

[-] Montagge@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 week ago

Most 40 year old men trying to date someone half their age are looking for someone that's easy to manipulate and control. If you don't come across as naive in the first couple of dates they're gonna bounce.

[-] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago

As a man just north of 40, what I look for in a woman half my age is for them to go have fun with people their own age.

[-] squaresinger@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Because you are not a creepy weirdo.

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