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Lemmy ate my post, going to try again;
Some men like to take charge in their relationship, other men like their women to take charge. (It's a spectrum of course.)
Your choice of words to describe yourself as "not real" suggests that you might need to work on your self confidence, and you might not be projecting a take charge attitude.
The overlap of men that like to take charge, and are also going on dates with trans women might be small.
The men that you're meeting might be more likely to be interested in a woman that takes charge.
So next time you're on a date, remember that this person has already accepted who you are. They're not doing you a favor and settling for a "not real" woman, they are interested in you.
At the same time, it's also totally ok if you are looking for a man that takes charge, just keep in mind it is going to take some looking and don't give up. ❤️
What does take charge mean? I date older men, I'm sorry but if a 40 year old man wants to be taken care of by someone half their age... Sorry but that's not the kind of man I'm looking for
Most 40 year old men trying to date someone half their age are looking for someone that's easy to manipulate and control. If you don't come across as naive in the first couple of dates they're gonna bounce.
As a man just north of 40, what I look for in a woman half my age is for them to go have fun with people their own age.
Because you are not a creepy weirdo.