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[-] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 1 month ago

Yup yup yup.

On one level, I genuinely empathize with guys going through that... probably totally emotionally and mentally devastating for the vast majority of them.

On the other hand... its so common, and usually so many people in their lives will tell them that.... that is probably gonna happen to them, and they don't listen.

Shit sucks man, I've never been in any military service, but I've known guys its happened to.

Oh and then you've got this: Hrm, could this phenomenon maybe play a role in female service members getting SA'd and raped?

You know, just maybe?

[-] P1k1e@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago

Whilst I knew them empathizing was what came naturally but thinking back on some of those cases, those dudes were not the greatest folks. Like of course they were basically kids being like 19 on average but I'd bet money some of those girls were doing it cuz these dudes were aggro

[-] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I mean generally yeah, asshole aggro dudebros is anecdotally most of what I've seen as well.

But, I have seen it happen to a few genuinely good natured and well intentioned, but just colossally naive and/or astoundingly brainwashed/gaslit guys as well.

[-] andros_rex@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago

Oh and then you’ve got this: Hrm, could this phenomenon maybe play a role in female service members getting SA’d and raped?

What the fuck

[-] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 month ago

see my reply to prettybunnys

[-] SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

Nah, it's just the macho dudebro attitude that pervades a lot of the military with a side helping of good old boys club, not jilted husbands.

[-] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 month ago

The macho asshole dudebro culture is certainly the main and biggest part of the problem.

I am just saying that maybe the jilted lover thing is also another part of the problem.

[-] itslilith 1 points 1 month ago

Holy shit, that's some next level victim blaming. Ewww

[-] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 month ago

see my reply to prettybunnys

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