On Sexual Desire and Feminine Envy (self.mtf)

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I keep thinking about the experience of feeling body envy towards cis women. Since I cracked my egg I've started to notice I have two distinct sets of feelings towards cis women, which can sometimes overlap, one being romantic/sexual desire and the other being envy for their body and femininity. I think for a long time I conflated those feelings and thought I felt sexual desire towards women who really I just wanted to be, and at other yet more unfortunate times didn't recognize my sexual desire for someone as such due to the lack of envy. It's made me wonder how much of my sexual life and awakening has been colored by my desire to be the women I thought I just wanted to bone. Definitely some at least.

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[-] gandalf_der_12te 2 points 2 weeks ago

maybe envy and sexual attraction are one and the same.

moving into somebody or moving into the way of being of somebody else might just be abstractions or imaginations of each other.

[-] irationslippers 2 points 2 weeks ago

Glad to hear other people feel the same way. A few months into a transition and I can say it helps a bit to meet gorgeous cis women who I absolutely get gender envy from, but don't have any sexual attraction too. Helps to learn how to separate those emotions

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