What are the most unhelpful pieces of advice? (kbin.melroy.org)

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"So just do it" is a glaring one for me.

Simply because it is disregarding someone else's thought processes and how their mind works. Where simply 'just do it' is not as easily and readily accomplished. This kind of advice is always uttered when one person is going on about how they're tired of something and want to do something else. So this gets mentioned.

It could be a lot of reasons as to why, even if it is down to the obvious reasons. My valid reason a lot of the time is that I just don't have the energy or will to just magically get myself to do something.

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[-] Pronell@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Thank you.

Like "choose to be happy" isn't a magical mantra but something you need to work on in order to change the way you reflexively think.

"Be yourself" is essential advice for people trying to have a mask on 24/7.

And I've mostly given up replying to such threads because they're usually an excuse to wallow and complain that they've tried everything.

I don't have a magic potion that makes things better overnight, but I do have techniques that I have found valuable in improving my own mental health, but by bit, over several years.

[-] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Like “choose to be happy” isn’t a magical mantra but something you need to work on in order to change the way you reflexively think.

It still doesn't work as advice for everyone, because some people have chemical imbalances that keep it from working no matter how long they try. For them, it won't actually change how they think or feel, it is just practice for pretending it worked.

It can work for most people whole still being bad advice for some people. Heck, I have given up on trying to remember people's names when I first meet them because decades of trying didn't work since ADHD is a disorder. I'm acknowledging my limitations.

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