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Spouse having trouble adjusting [transfem]
(lemmy.blahaj.zone)
She acknowledged that I did talk to her about it beforehand, but hasn't been able to properly process it yet.
We're OK, I'm just venting.
Thank you for taking the time to respond.
When i read stories like that, it feels like women are much more accepting that their husband/boyfriend is trans than the flip side. This is totally unsubstantiated though, so take it for what it is : an uneducated opinion.
I absolutely agree with you that a trans person shouldn't put it off for their partner, but it must feel scary as fuck to come to term with that and telling your partner. It's a big leap and I have nothing but admiration for people being this honest with themselves.
Kudos to you and I wish you the best.
Thanks!
I suspect the difficulty some men may have with accepting a trans partner is due to internalized homophobia / toxic masculinity. It's very easy to think "of course I'm not bi / trans / whatever" without ever actually considering the possibility (at least it was in my case). The same can apply to women, of course, but perhaps women culturally face a little less pressure in that respect at least?
And you are exactly right: coming out, even just to myself at first, was scary as fuck. But worth it!