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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by ada to c/196

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This community is housed on an instance run by two trans women, focused on the needs of the queer and gender diverse community.

We allowed 196 here because we were promised the community is queer and trans inclusive.

If you're here it's because you're aggressively supportive of trans folk. Not middle of the ground, not "just asking questions".

If your response to that is, "yes, but..." then this isn't the instance for you, and by extension, this isn't the community for you.

tl;dr - Unambiguous support and inclusion, or fuck off somewhere else.

Edit - I changed the phrase "aggressive support to "unambiguous support", as there was some confusion over the intent behind my previous phrasing.

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[-] ssfckdt@mastodon.cloud 1 points 1 year ago

I guess I don't know why you need to bring this up.

I'm fully aware this forum has a lot of trans folks in it. And I am happy to embrace that. But up till now there hasn't been any "please no cis folks" pressure in it, either.

It's not like 196 started out as a trans space. And there are definitely a lot of places that were. And I would tread very lightly in them if at all.

Is it even a bad thing for trans and cis to mix and enjoy things together? Isn't that, like, positive?

Sheesh.

[-] LeylaaLovee 1 points 1 year ago

It's not "no cis folks" it's asking to recognize that this is a trans space, on an explicitly trans Lemmy instance. Cis people can participate here the same way trans people can interact with cis spaces. If we want to enjoy it whatsoever, we just have to accept a certain level of shittiness to conform to those social standards. I'm saying that in a space where there are 30x more trans people than average, also on a dedicated trans server, yeah this is an explicitly trans space at this point. You may not like that, but I hate how Lemmy.world is pretty much entirely dominated by cis people, it is what it is.

Cis people can come here, they can even make their case for things they believe. People of different perspectives add to communities. Monoculture is never good. However, there needs to be some empathy in the way we feel like we're walking on eggshells anytime we're not talking to other trans people. We both feel like outsiders in the same way, and I don't necessarily like that, but I also don't think there's any way to actually explain that in a truly applicable way. Lived experience goes further for empathy than anything, yk?

[-] ssfckdt@mastodon.cloud 2 points 1 year ago

I would be sad if trans folks stopped communicating naturally in this space because in my opinion that's the main reason that makes the space worth being in.