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Does anyone else get so tired and depressed from saying you're good when people ask how you are? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 days ago by LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Every day, all day, I have to lie to clients at work and tell them I'm good. I'm far from good and lying about it constantly is killing me.

I'm incredibly lonely and almost everything I usually enjoy feels like a goddamn chore.

Anyone else here feel like that? If so, how do y'all cope?

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[-] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 27 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

No one really wants an accurate answer. It's just a greeting. Someone says 'how are you?' you say 'grand' then get on with your day. Same as when someone says 'what's happening?' They don't want a comprehensive list of your woes and such.

Edit: just found this - https://lemmy.world/post/25032324

[-] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 14 points 3 days ago

Well obviously, but I know that I'm lying and it just reminds me of how I'm shitty like 90% of days.

[-] Today@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago

Then say something different. Same shit different day, surviving for now, whatever. They'll shrug it off and move on. We all do it. My mom used to say, "it's a good day. I woke up on the right side of the dirt."

[-] lemmylommy@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

Could you maybe skip the answer and go directly to asking „how are you?“ back?

[-] Kissaki@feddit.org 8 points 3 days ago

Adding a "thanks" acknowledges them asking. "Thanks, how about you?" Doesn't answer the question, but follows the social interaction formula of acknowledgment and throwing it back/mirroring.

[-] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 9 points 3 days ago

If it's a greeting, then just greet me. "Hey!", "Good morning", etc. Don't ask me a question you don't want an answer to.

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