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What is a human behaviour you've never understood?
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Kissing. Why? What's the point of it? What's the appeal?
The mine + yours thing is intimate. You are experiencing the same thing at the same time, while being somewhat vulnerable to the other participant.
Looking into someone's eyes
Holding someone's hand
Kissing someone's lips
Frotting
Smelling someone's nose doesn't quite feel like it would fit the list.
I'm older and experienced, and there have been exactly two men I have kissed who made it a good experience. I thought I just didn't like it, but really it's more like not many are any good at it. It's an actively unpleasant experience with most.
So at least for me it’s as simple as, it feels really good and creates an intimacy between the parties involved even if it’s fleeting
Do you mean making out? A quick kiss as a sign of affection makes sense to me. Locking lips and moving your tongues around? Weird. Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but if you are doing something that intimate, there are a lot more fun things to be doing.
It's a precursor to the more fun things, ratcheting up the excitement levels for most.
Do people really just dive straight for the clitoris/dick without making out first? Not judging, just literally never considered that as a possibility. Also noted there are other forms of foreplay, but outside of some S&M branched stuff I always figured there was making out somewhere in the mix most of the time.
Well, that's fair. I was thinking more along the lines of high school kids making out on benches at the mall. And uncomfortably intimate things that just are not that fun.
Also, dear god, that statement made me feel old. Do kids make out at the mall anymore?
I agree making out is better than diving for your partners privates. But have always felt like that step lingers for a little too long. Just personal preference.
Fair enough, I was thinking in more of an adult context. Totally respect your personal preference in that regard.
With teens, it's kind of a combination of factors - lack of space they can privately do whatever intimate thing they please (malls/bleachers/whatever are public spaces, sure, but are places they can easily meet away from parents. They don't necessarily care about the rest of the public), not yet being comfortable with the more fun stuff, and it still feels pretty good (though lower on the total spectrum of good feeling things possible between humans).
I can guarantee there's kids in a mall somewhere making out while we're having the conversation, unaware that they engaging in a dying ritual lumbering its way into the mists of time.
It's intimate. It signals interest. Often you get to touch other parts of their body, too. Some people are good kissers and have the appropriate amount of forcefulness/submission for each other.
I'm with you there. I've only tried it a few times tbh and I'm 30. Didn't understand it. It was simply wet, awkward, and unpleasant and I didn't understand what I was supposed to be doing anyway.
Conceptually, I understand why people want and desire sex. For most people, it's a basic human instinct that exists because of a species's drive to further its own existence. But kissing? You're at the wrong end there. I don't get the appeal.