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Idk, 20 year old me wouldn’t have minded not seeing the 23 year old version of myself. I feel like things will just get sadder and worse
you're probably just not your own type. that or you have to unlearn some toxic beauty standards in therapy.
At 23 I was miserable but managed to survive. Early 30s I had a job that teenage me would have begged for and thought unattainable.
I'm in my mid 40s now. Starting life over from scratch (don't own any furniture, dishes, don't have any friends). I'm depressed as hell nearly everyday and working a dead end job.
But my life of experiences has shown me that shit changes without warning. And plenty of other people didn't 'make it' till they were my age. So I'm still here, hoping that something will finally work out in my favor.
Life is a rollercoaster, don't assume the bottom of the drop is the whole ride.
I didn't say it gets progressively better as you go through your 20s. The 20s is about trying things a an adult, making mistakes, sometimes suffering the consequences of those mistakes, but most importantly learning from them. Make no mistake that there are parts of your 20s that suck. As an example, its not unusual to have brushes with the legal system in your 20s. Those are very sobering.
I think that can be a natural reaction you feel that way. Your sample size is too small. Imagine watching a movie only 20% through then leaving the theater each time at the 20% mark. Movies would be very unsatisfying and so many of the plot points introduced would make no sense or have no relevance. You'd have some of the world building in the story, but not enjoy seeing how your understanding of that movie's world play's to the protagonists advantage. If you described your behavior to friends about leaving 20% into every movie, then being unsatisfied with the movie, they'd look at you like you're crazy.
Don't leave 20% through life. It gets exciting in the second act, and the big payoff is in the third act. Please hang around with us and see how it comes out.