I used to think I'm a guy, I like many masculine things like motor sports, fixing cars, playing shooters. Things that typically boys like and I have no desire to wear girly clothes or anything like that. But I've always when I was younger liked hanging out with girls more than I liked hanging out with other dudes. Maybe that's not weird but I liked their company more, like how other boys would hang out with the guys, I liked doing that but with girls.
Recently I met someone new, she's a lot like me in her interests and even her style, and I learned she's transfem and that has made me question whether I might be trans myself. I asked her to call me by she/her pronouns for a bit to see how it feels, and I got a rush of happiness when she referred to me with she/her pronouns. So now I'm not sure if I am a guy or not anymore. I don't have any discomfort towards my penis and I do think I'd miss it if it were gone, but lately I have been getting discomfort related to my chest, it feels flat and empty, and wrong. Like it should be bigger than it is. It doesn't seem normal for a guy to feel like that.
I really need help, is it normal for a guy to feel like this or does this mean I might be trans?
I know that now, but I didn't always know that and before I used to think it meant that I'm a guy but I'm not so sure now.
Guilty, maybe a little bit confused. I feel guilty because I've been told that boys can't want to be girls and part of me does indeed want to be a girl. I've always felt something was off, it started back when I was younger and would prefer to hang out with girls more than boys. People said it was weird and that I was weird for it but I still kept doing it because I felt like I related more with the girls than the boys. When I was younger I did want to get earrings, and while I know that boys would sometimes get one earring I didn't like that idea. I wanted both ears pierced, but was told only girls do that, so I never did it, I felt sad that I couldn't do it. The last question made me feel a bit scared and uncomfortable, I think I do want to be a woman but I don't want to lose my penis, that would make me sad.
Really? That's awesome I used to think that getting surgery or wanting it was required to be a trans woman. Thant changes everything. I see what you were trying to do, and thank you. I think it helped a lot.
I had a look through that and yeah I think I'm definitely trans. For more reasons than just the ones I talked about here. Thank you so much for helping me out.
Welcome to the family, sweetie. Unfortunately I can't give you a whole lot more help atm, I'm unfortunately not in a place where I can actually transition myself. However, I wish you luck on your journey <3
Edit: oh yeah, btw, having a penis on estrogen is a use-it-or-lose-it kinda thing. You'll wanna make sure you're regularly stimulating it.
I'm still happy and grateful you were able to help me this far. I probably never would've figured it out if it weren't for you and the nice people here, thank you.
Oh, I wasn't aware of that, good to know though. I don't think that'll be an issue since it does regularly see use 😅 and I don't plan on stopping anytime soon.
Hah, well, I'd still suggest making sure you're talking to a therapist. They'll be able to help you through the process, help you make sure it's really what you want, things like that. It sounds like it clicked for you though, and that's a good sign.
Yeah I'm going to try to find a therapist ASAP, then I'll be able to talk to them but also hopefully be able to get on Estrogen soon.