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I found that "going out of my comfort zone" in this way does little else aside from make me miserable. Social media platforms like facebook and instagram, are designed to push your buttons, and not in a good way.
It's why I was always more comfortable on reddit, where I could discuss things I actually cared about enough to want to do that. And that I was doing so with strangers allowed me to drop a lot of worries I'd have otherwise.
Using platforms with people I know to share things I don't want everyone to know in the first place, just to have social life, is an unbearable chore. One that doesn't even lead to the things one would hope it does.
I've found far greater success in socialising, by just direct messaging people that I think might be worth knowing. And if they are, you'll automatically keep doing that because you want to. Learning to take that first step to say hello, and continue doing so when I actually enjoy my relationship with someone, has been most productive to me.