I've only been to one "party" and I don't know If this has anything to do being quiet or being noticed as anxious, but I've been told this framed like "you know, your social behaviour is a little weird when you're sober, so maybe getting drunk makes you a little more normal" (this sounded a little like Homeopathy, where like cures like). This is the only thing I can imagine he could have been implying. I never have been drunk. Anonymous friend was really into drinking. Our group of friends just lived past these occasionally intolerant moments from him, so It wasn't that bad, and he didn't support right wing extremism last time I checked, so I can't be sure he non-jokingly has negative feelings towards people who don't act like him. I don't really know what to say here. I understand being afraid of the consequences of drinking, like loss of memory and loss of control (the point), and I don't really ever expect to want to drink.