[-] wasp 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The heck is a "free speech" phone? Very few phones prevent you from unlocking the bootloader and putting whatever software you want on it. The problem is what software do you want?

If you're concerned about Google snooping on you, first off, get an iPhone. (They are marginally less snoopy, but it's still not great.)

If you're concerned about stock android, buy any smartphone and put Lineage or Graphene on it. You can then install Google's services on it if you want (play store!), but at that point I'd save your time and stick with the normal version of Android that shipped with your phone.

If you're really concerned about FOSS and having control of your device, put a Linux mobile distro on your phone - see here. Be warned, even the best mobile Linux distros are miles behind Android in terms of usability for the average user. If you want to go all in on open source, get a Pinephone or Fairphone and put Linux on it.

As a note of caution, lots of people (including me) think they want a FOSS device until they have to use one. You can totally go FOSS and fully libre, but it does come at the expense of convenience. I am quite happy with my pixel with stock android and all of the convenience that provides, but each to their own.

[-] wasp 8 points 1 year ago

Yes, they are great - they are quite vocally neurodivergent and thankfully I'm in a company and culture that is very supportive, accommodating and open about these things.

I think, even without any diagnosis, having this conversation has made me think "hey, maybe I don't have to be so hard on myself" which, regardless of whether I am or am not neurotypical, is probably a positive train of thought to be having!

[-] wasp 2 points 1 year ago

I'm sorry to hear about a lot of this. There are other things going on in the background, yes (who doesn't have baggage, right?). All I can say is long term therapy does wonders and fortunately I'm in the best place that I've ever been in.

I'll have the conversation with my GP, but at the moment I don't think I want to be on medication if I can avoid it. I've just shaken the SSRIs and I'm not super keen for any more weird side effects!

[-] wasp 4 points 1 year ago

Thank you for this - I can relate to this and it's reassuring to know I'm not alone!

Especially with parents. My parents are, in my opinion, both textbook cases of undiagnosed ADHD (especially compulsiveness and hyperfocus). Yet they are both against any form of label that might define you as "different". Not in an oppressive way, more a "Does it matter? You are who you are regardless” way. It's probably not been helpful for them or myself and may explain why I've always tried to ignore signs to "be normal" and not ask for or seek support.

[-] wasp 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

They are neurodivergent, yes. I wouldn't be surprised if they were autistic (as well) but I haven't asked. I'm not going to pry; either way they're lovely.

[-] wasp 1 points 1 year ago

Well, it was more of a "we are assigning you a mentor as someone to help you keep you on track and be organised" sort of thing...

But my mentor has been good. They're definitely not afraid to give constructive feedback to say the least!

[-] wasp 2 points 1 year ago

I'll have the conversation with an open mind, but at the moment I feel that I've been managing fine without medication so I would be hesitant to be on anything. But yes, drugs are to be taken seriously.

[-] wasp 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah, it's definitely something I wouldn't say to a colleague. It could be taken the wrong way and thar be HR calls. But for me in this case I really don't mind, and maybe it's what I needed to hear.

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submitted 1 year ago by wasp to c/adhd@lemmy.world

Today I had a work call with a colleague who has been mentoring me for a few months now (nothing serious, just someone to ask now and then if I need advice). Around half way through this call, once they had answered my original question, out of the blue and unprompted they asked "wasp, have you considered that you might be neurodivergent?"

From the short conversation I then had, they have noticed that I hyperfocus, I can't organise for shit, I regularly stop mid sentence and change the subject, and that I bounce between trains of thought rapidly which makes it hard for people to keep up. I was a bit surprised as I don't work particularly closely with this colleague and while I'm aware that I do these things they have never really been mentioned before, and certainly not attributed to anything other than me being a bit overenthusiastic.

I won't delve too deeply here, but today has certainly been a day of self reflection. Regardless of whether I am or am not neurodivergent, I have always felt able to pass as neurotypical and today has been the first time I have had anyone question this. Suddenly I'm thinking that maybe I should be taking the possibility of me having ADHD a lot more seriously. The penny has finally dropped that I need to get this checked out.

Any advice on what I should do next? I've booked in to see my doctor, but what would you all recommend to a potential ADHD newcomer?

[-] wasp 1 points 1 year ago

I hear this a lot, that "it's not worth doing anything because of ", or "well, the solution is not perfect so why bother?".

Any improvement is better than nothing. If no one ever changes, nothing will ever change. Just because someone else is being worse, it doesn't excuse you from being bad.

So yes, it's a drop in the ocean, but at least it's something. Little drops add up, and they make it harder for the real polluters to justify/excuse their actions.

[-] wasp 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Just a reminder - the economy is an artificial construct invented by rich people to make themselves richer. There is no reason why it has to be the way it is (:

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