Honestly, I'll never understand how Christianity has become ingrained with right wing politics. Modern day conservative churches are at odds with everything that Christ taught and stood for.

He went with the "it was just a prank bro" strategy, which has in the last decade been very successful

[-] thisisnotgoingwell@programming.dev 14 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I recently switched from Spotify to Deezer. They offer high fidelity audio streaming which is a very noticable difference. Also, they're a bit cheaper, and you can easily move all your songs/saved playlists to Deezer

[-] thisisnotgoingwell@programming.dev 19 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

That's one of the reasons why companies will put on a PIP(performance improvement plan) if they want to fire you. They try to get you to sign something saying you understand and acknowledge that your performance needs to improve.They need to have some sort of paper trail in order for them to be able to deny the unemployment claim. A company can't just say "oh yeah that guy sucked" unless there was a substantial, documented issue like you getting into a physical confrontation with someone

[-] thisisnotgoingwell@programming.dev 15 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I had to learn a few years ago how to say no. It came after spending years trying to please everyone and always having to come up with excuses for coming up short while feeling like all I did was disappoint people.

When I met my wife, she was the same. She'd work horrible hours, like closing down a restaurant at 3am and then being there at 9am with about 4 hours of sleep. She'd wake up late, apologize profusely to her boss and drive insanely fast to work. She also had a hard time being at important events like birthdays because "they wouldn't let me have the day off"

I taught her, most things in life require little explanation. Instead of saying "can I please have x day off, I need to yadayada"... Say "I'm letting you know ahead of time, I won't be unavailable on x date." Nothing further. And if they ask why, simply rephrase "like I said, I won't be available." Or "I have something to take care of." It's incredibly uncomfortable for them to press on further but if for some reason they do you can refuse to answer by changing the topic or by ignoring them.

Same with things like being tardy. If you're already late, then be late. Have your breakfast, get dressed, drive safely. No need to make a bad day worse. When you call to let your boss know you'll be late, same thing. Maybe offer a small apology, but no excuses. "Hey, my apologies, I'm running late. I'll be there in 30 minutes or so." If they say "omg no you can't be late today how could you do this to me" keep your cool, "I'll be there as soon as I can."

There's a book called the power of no which I partially read. Highly recommend it. https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/18595404

Here's the description

... a well-placed ‘no’ will not only save you time and trouble—it will save your life.

“Takes a fresh approach to becoming masterful at using ‘no’ to say ‘yes’ to life.” —Cheryl Richardson, author of The Art of Extreme Self-Care

“No” is sometimes the hardest word to say. It’s also the most necessary.

How many times have you heard yourself saying yes to the wrong things—overwhelming requests, bad relationships, time-consuming obligations? How often have you wished you could summon the power to turn them down?

Drawing on their own stories, as well as feedback from their readers and students, authors James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher clearly show that you have the right to say

• To anything that is hurting you. • To standards that no longer serve you. • To people who drain you of your creativity and expression. • To beliefs that are not true to the real you.

It’s one thing to say “No,” the authors explain. It’s another thing to have the Power of No. When you do, you will have a stronger sense of what is good for you and the people around you, and you will have a deeper understanding of who you are. Ultimately, you’ll be freed to say a truly powerful “Yes” in your life—one that opens the door to opportunities, abundance, and love.

You should have added "must be available to work all weekends" or have one weekend day off (Sunday) and another week day off (like Tuesday)

Pizza parties for me have either been where

  1. I work in service industry and am allowed to grab a slice but I must eat it at my desk and keep working

  2. I work in technology industry and my boss is well aware we're going to have to work through lunch for the 3rd day in a row because of massive outages and orders pizza

  3. Sales is coming into the building and they're celebrating with catered lunch but we get pizza as a consolation

Damn, I live in CLT and that video was tough to watch. Looks like an obvious excessive use of force. And the PD already defended the officer's use of force... I have a feeling this will lead to protests.

Gotta risk it for the biscuit

No idea why or when I heard it but I like the risk/reward nature of it

[-] thisisnotgoingwell@programming.dev 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Most everyone I know doesn't have a Twitter or Instagram. Obv I deleted my reddit. What are people supposed to do except just not use the platform? Most authors I want to follow are on substack or mastodon.

I think that as the platforms further enshittify, people will realize there are no intelligent conversations happening on platforms like X, Instagram, Facebook, etc. Ragebait content can only captivate audiences for so long before they either abandon it or are brainwashed by it. If everyone on X is a musk dickrider right wing lunatic then it makes it easier for sane people to stay off of it. Honestly it might be better to give them their safespace echo chamber as long as Democrats, liberals and libertarians mobilize and make their arguments where it matters.

This meme is kind of wrong though, because it's mixing the OSI model with the TCP/IP model, which are different representations of the same thing, but in either model the "link layer", ie layer 2 switching would never hand over to the "internet" layer without going through network first. So if you're confused, it's because it's wrong.

Application, transport, session, transport, network, data, physical (OSI) Application, transport, internet, network (TCP/IP)

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