[-] kira_ananta 3 points 1 year ago

I was surprised at first but when I thought about it some more it made sense ๐Ÿ˜„

[-] kira_ananta 3 points 1 year ago

Thank you! This was helpful, and I added context to the post as well. This is indeed help from friends. I'll have to try thinking of it as a favor and see what that does to how likely I am to ask!

[-] kira_ananta 7 points 1 year ago

This is amazing, thank you! I particularly appreciated this quote:

people want to help, but they canโ€™t help if they donโ€™t know someone is suffering or struggling, or what the other person needs and how to help effectively, or whether it is their place to help โ€“ perhaps they want to respect othersโ€™ privacy or agency. A direct request can remove those uncertainties, such that asking for help enables kindness and unlocks opportunities for positive social connections. It can also create emotional closeness when you realize someone trusts you enough to share their vulnerabilities, and by working together toward a shared goal.

It's hard to keep this in mind, I think. I think I face too much fear of rejection and that stops me from taking an action like this that could ultimately do the exact opposite. Fascinating!

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by kira_ananta to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I feel like I give help easily but I don't feel ok asking. How do you become ok with asking for help? I have no idea what conversations that include this even sound like. In my mind I come across as begging and losing connection with the person or people I ask. How can I think about this differently?

Edit: a little more context, although this applies generally I think. I recently got surgery. I have enough help at home to get by, but it would be nice I suppose if a friend wanted to help out in some way too while I recover. I'm not exactly sure what kind of help that would entail, maybe cleaning or cooking or even just visiting. But I struggle with asking for help in even "normal" circumstances, like moving, or a major project, or even just emotional support.

[-] kira_ananta 2 points 1 year ago
[-] kira_ananta 10 points 1 year ago

Trans rights! Also, shonk ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ๐Ÿฆˆ

[-] kira_ananta 2 points 1 year ago

Oh hi! I'm doing that ๐Ÿ˜… anyone feel free to help!

[-] kira_ananta 4 points 1 year ago

Wow, that was beautiful, thanks for sharing

[-] kira_ananta 2 points 1 year ago

Want to help me make a Blahaj too? Use these template settings:

URL: https://cdn.modrinth.com/data/Yl6uPZkr/icon.png hpos: 505 vpos: 567 width: 19

If you select in UI settings "Add numbers to palette entries", I'm using colors 0, 4, and 18, but if you have better ideas that's awesome Blahaj Zone Logo

[-] kira_ananta 5 points 1 year ago

Yay! I like making a big one in the middle for visibility, but more is more!

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Canvas: make our flag (canvas.toast.ooo)
submitted 1 year ago by kira_ananta to c/mtf

Come help me make our flag and show that we're here ๐Ÿ’–

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Canvas: make our flag! (canvas.toast.ooo)
submitted 1 year ago by kira_ananta to c/transart

Come help me make our presence known ๐Ÿ’–

[-] kira_ananta 29 points 1 year ago

Yeahhhh I get the joke but I wish the meme didn't do it in a racist way. Why is the TCP baby white and the UDP baby not?

[-] kira_ananta 2 points 1 year ago

My wife slays me every time with that look ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€๐ŸŒˆ

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