I may have a user bias, but I think KBin is already started down that path, of actually making a usuable platform for both communities and users. Unlike say Lemmy that doesn't even really let you follow individual users, and Mastodon, which lets you follow Lemmy Communities, but its hard to follow threads because every post just looks like a Re-Toot by the community "user"
Then again Friendica is pretty nice too, it treats Lemmy communities just as if they are Friendica Forums, and it supports other platforms in addition to ActivityPub, including Diaspora*, and allows for integration with Email, Calendar, etc. with several very different "themes" to choose from, with the default, Firo(?), being a UI ver similar to the world's most popular social media platform, Facebook.
then again, if your phone has "safari browser" you probably are unable to be reasoned with anyway.
Thers's plenty of other good reasons not to use non-free closed source "SaaS" like reddit.
on a related note, hosting images on your server for users on other servers, eats up a lot of resources too. I know some instances have stopped allowing saving of images.
use a web browser....even on your phone....
WTF said anything about wanting gun control?
I'm not certain who would be willing to take the risk to host an instance that includes /c/gonewildcurvy or /m/gonewild though gonewildstories probably has less of a chance you'd endup in a cage because of what someone else posted that lived on your server.
Implement ActivityPub, or I I suppose another protocol like Nostr, Ostatus, pump.io, or Diaspora*, and join the fediverse. Preferably publishing their code under the AGPL, but even if they kept it as non-free software I'd still probably get back on. I suppose if they did end-to-end security truly decentralized, like Scuttlebutt or Status, I'd do that too.
my parents didn't have teeth by the time they were in their 30s either. Americans have a rather out-of-proportion concern about their teeth. I know its a trope that Englishman have bad teeth, but look, dental isn't covered by British universal health care because most times its primarily cosmetic , even things American dentists say are essential, and not a true health concern.