Dichotomy of Control.

I try to keep this in mind as I go through my day. It's not easy.

Not lame. Just not what you want. The joy is, there are instances that allow downvoting, which you are free to join, if that's the way you want to interact.

If you know the name of the community, I found success going through the address bar in your browswer, as opposed to search.

For example: lemmy.one/c/whatever@whatever.instance