Thank you so much, this is great advice.
But I think it may already be too late for us. We've been on the brink of breaking up before and my wife hasn't been happy in our marriage in a long time. Last week she told me this once again and that she's currently under too much pressure (other things going on in her life) to make any decisions but basically thinking about ending things. And then two days later we had an ugly fight and I think.... I think it's too late.
thank you!
Thank you, these are great ideas :) <3
Thank you so, so much. All the kind words I have received in these comments really mean so much to me.
I think by now my partner does grasp what having ADHD means. In the past she didn't really know what it meant and thought that ok people were maybe a bit more chaotic or forgetful.
But she has realized that the way my brain works is just fundamentally different and sometimes incomprehensible to her. And she knows me having ADHD means she has to put up with some things in order to be together with me but it's reached a point where there isn't really any, or hardly any, happiness left. She feels completely drained and constantly on the edge of depression. We have completely fallen into the "child-parent-dynamic" and she says being married to me is like being married to a teenager. Or having a child without having a child. Which in turn, I guess it goes without saying, has also pretty much killed any romance or attraction between us.
My partner 100% doesn't have ADHD, I have never met a more focused, attentive, pro-active person than her. She always immediately knows what to do and gets it done. But she's repeatedly stated that she thinks she might be on the autistic spectrum and from what I know about it and what I know about her I agree it might be the case and, if true, that would probably be another factor making things difficult 🤔
Yeah. I often notice that I can do something just fine if I'm doing it on my own.
This may be a ridiculous example but: One common source of friction is when we go grocery shopping together and put all the items back into the shopping cart after the cashier has scanned them. They are super fast and so we need to be pretty fast as well putting them back into the cart without for instance damaging fruit or veggies.
When we are shopping together I never know what to do. My partner is super fast at putting things into the cart and I want to try to help but I feel like I'm just getting the the way because I'm putting things back in the wrong order or into the wrong part of the cart.
When I'm on my own I do it just fine my own way.
Yeah but the problem is I often fuck up my responsibilities :(
Thank you! I actually do like LibreWolf, was just curious about other browsers
It's DuckDuckGo's VPN. I switched it off, suddenly PlayStore worked.fine again, switched it back on, PlayStore still works. Huh.
I don't know how to boot into safe mode but turning off the vpn fixed it :)
My SO actually did tell me when she noticed improvements. But there weren't enough improvements...
The tip with the "mistake journal" is great btw, I had never thought of that. Thank you so much, I will definitely start doing this :)