Thank you for your replying <3

After reading the comments I went back and read my post and realized I didn't get my point across. The thing that bothers me isn't that I don't get enough sympathy for my own struggle. What bothers me is that when I tell people "my ADHD has been eroding our marriage" everyone seems to be low-key (or not so low-key) assuming that my partner must be overreacting because it can't be THAT bad. They think I'm just a bit more chaotic than most people and my partner must be overly sensitive.

I'm sorry to hear that. Having ADHD is a struggle but being the partner of someone with ADHD is extremely exhausting as well. I think there should be support groups for partners of ADHD-people.

Thank you so much! Yeah I often forget that and only see all the things I haven't achieved yet.

Thank you so much, I appreciate it!

Yeah, I.... I try to remind myself that I can't change the past. I should have done something sooner but also I have ADHD and I don't mean it as an excuse but that's the whole problem with ADHD.

We definitely need space from each other right now and... I don't know, I'm both incredibly sad but also if we really can't make each other happy anymore than that's a fact I need to accept.

Thank you, I really appreciate your input.

I've been getting better at handling things, I think. I also realize that sometimes I'm so scared of fucking up that I don't know what / how I should do something. But when I just do it without worrying so much it often works out. Maybe not in the most efficient way, maybe sometimes in a kinda complicated way, but often I do find a way.

I will keep trying my best and I know I will keep getting better at things. And if my marriage really is over then maybe we can both be happier than we are now.

Thank you <3 <3 <3

Thank you for your support <3

I don't think my wife came into our marriage expecting me to change. It took her a while to realize something was wrong and all the while our relationship was developing a dynamic that just got worse and worse.

Thank you <3 No I don't live in northern Colorado but virtual hugs are very much appreciated <3

Yeah, being kind to myself has been hard. I feel like such a failure most of the time.

Thank you! I already use it, was just curious what else is out there :)

I had tried that :) turns out it was thevpn

Some people report slower boot but that's not the case for me. Everything seems to work fine, I just get the error message so, I dunno, maybe I'll just ignore it as well?