That's what xmpp is. It was embraced by Google and Facebook and killed.
I have two currently. I love painting miniatures, I work from home and will do it during my working day when I need a break.
My other fixation is a friend of mine who came back into my life recently. She's amazing and knows what's happening. I have a partner who is also amazing and understanding.
I found I had aphantasia as a flow-on from something else I was investigating.
I have known for a long time that I had trouble watching movies because I lose track of who the characters are. My wife started watching Married at first sight and I got really confused with it. 3 of the ladies had the same shaped face, hair style and colour and I could not tell them apart at all. I searched on Google to find out why and found about Prosopagnosia.
Reading about this it mentioned it was common with aphantasia. I kept reading and it sounded more and more like fiction. This idea that people could see images, make sounds, imagine touch and actually feel it all. I asked my wife if it made sense to her, and she just looked at me like I was mad.
Doing more reading since, I've discovered I have SDAM as well as autism. Sometimes life would be amazing if we got an instruction manual for our minds.
I have a home server and a laptop. Both run different versions of Ubuntu
Mine is large enough to be a capybara.
Best is so subjective.
I am running pivpn, pihole, all the arrs, jellyfin, gitea and rundeck.
Email has the same problems as federated lemmy servers.
Mail Servers can end up on distrubuted blacklists and unable to communicate with each other. When office 365 has an outage it causes huge problems because it's a single large provider having issues. That provider goes down but not email as a whole.
This is the same as what happened about a week ago when lemmy.ml and lemmy.world went down due to load.
One big question I have is where is the money going?
I'm keen to start using the report feature and know that it's being responded to. I don't have the time to be a moderator myself.
Lemmy is opensource, you can see and get a copy of the source code here. https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy There's no development cost because all developers are volunteers at this stage.
For each instance that depends on the admins running that individual instance. The instance I use is being sponsored by a NZ company that are providing the admin's a free virtual server to host on.
I showed my 7 year old. She was very amused and still does not believe there are any dolphins.