[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 4 points 2 months ago

Well, can't we say that about literally any other sexuality? Why is there a word for anything? I would argue that this sexuality is more relevant and restrictive (i.e. someone who has a preference for red hair probably isn't literally exclusively attracted to those people and no one else) and comes up more, but in general it helps to be able to express and identify your orientation to other people and to talk about it. I mean, most of these macrolabels that people use might not serve that much of a purpose, even if they do describe more specifically what someone's sexuality is and make them feel validated or help them to understand their own nature, in addition to making it easier to clarifying to others or justifying (though it shouldn't require justifying) their sexual choices in alignment with their attraction which may not be able to change.

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It seems like it could in fact be a valid sexuality type to be attracted exclusively to sex rather than gender, but the only common term that seems to describe this sexuality is "super straight" (when referencing the heterosexual form of this, while "super gay" might be an unused but equivalent term for the homosexual form) which carries harmful connotations that aren't inherently entailed by having this sexuality type - which I agree is not a broader sexual orientation like heterosexual/homosexual/bisexual/asexual etc, but is more like a "microlabel" such as demisexual, in that it's an additional descriptor that further specifies the exact nature of someone's individual sexual preferences/orientation. However, that also doesn't mean it needs to be considered as part of the LGBTQ+ community, as it's not a marginalized sexuality or identity - in fact I'm pretty sure it's one of the most common sexuality types there are, if not the most common. Especially due to how stigmatized or misunderstood this sexuality is, or that people feel it's invalid or tied to discrimination against LGBT people somewhat inseparably, there isn't much research on it, so it's possible that people who are attracted to gender are more common than people who are attracted to sex, but it could be the opposite.

I understand the history of this word is problematic as it was created by transphobes, and its perception is so heavily tied to those origins that it's considered a hateful ideology in itself. That's one reason the word needs a different replacement and a "fresh start". People are identifying as this sexuality without any bigoted ideas toward LGBT people, even being vocally pro-LGBT, but simply having no other word to describe their exact sexuality, and then using this word despite it having other connotations they don't agree with, because it's the closest word there is - and then being misunderstood and criticized for using it. It seems like replacing this word with a more well-intentioned one would actually serve to hinder those hateful ideologies from spreading (by stopping people from resorting to using it with no other alternative, as is happening a lot) and enable people to acknowledge the validity of all sexual preferences or orientations as distinct from any hateful rhetoric.

Additionally, the word itself carries problematic connotations linguistically - even if it wasn't tied to attempts to undermine LGBT rights movements - since it could be interpreted as implying that people who are attracted to people of the opposite gender regardless of sex are "less straight" than people who are only attracted to the opposite sex regardless of gender. This recalls the fairly backward arguments (or offensive jokes) that someone who is attracted to people who were born as the same sex as them but who identify/present as the opposite gender, is actually "secretly gay" or "in denial of being gay" due to that attraction and is not really straight - that, for example, a man who is capable of being attracted to either cis women as well as trans women is therefore somehow less straight or more gay (or bi) than one who is only attracted to cis women - and this may come across as undermining the validity of those people as truly being the gender they identify as, or in other words attempting to deny or downplay the fact that trans women are women and trans men are men.

But it must be understood that being attracted to sex rather than gender does not mean denying the validity of gender identities in any way. Someone can fully support the rights of and acknowledge the legitimacy of trans people, that trans women are women and trans men are men in full, etc. The reality is just that sex is something distinct from gender and some people are attracted to one or the other or both, but not necessarily both. It's not something that can be entirely rationalized or explained, just like why someone is attracted to men rather than women or vice versa, or any other sexuality. It's something that people just naturally feel. Some so-called "super straight" people, non-bigoted and well-meaning ones in search of a way to explain and justify their sexual choices, genuinely just don't feel attraction to people who were born as the same sex as them, even if those people identify as/present as the opposite gender to them, and even while still considering them to be women/men in alignment with their gender etc. For the homosexual equivalent, aka "super gay", some people also are only attracted to their own sex, and would not be attracted to someone who was born as the opposite sex even if they identified/presented as the same gender as them. How can we criticize someone for having a particular sexual preference or orientation like that? I'm not saying they're oppressed or anything for having that nature (for being gay, yes, not for being "super gay" or "super straight"), but it seems silly and harmful to not be able to distinguish between people who are attracted to sex and people who are attracted to gender - it also doesn't need to be necessarily words based on how it relates to a larger orientation (like "super straight" and "super gay") but rather an additional label that you can place on any sexuality which denotes whether your attraction is gender-based or sex-based, or either, or both. To say that that is somehow discriminating against individuals just by not being attracted to them in some way you can't change - despite fully respecting them - seems no different from suggesting that someone is discriminating against women or men just by not being attracted to them since that's their sexuality. Are gay men necessarily misogynists? Of course not. So why would people who are attracted to cis people (of a particular sex) and not trans people (of the opposite sex-assigned-at-birth to the sex they're attracted to) necessarily be transphobes? It seems like there would be further variations to this as well depending on how people's exact sexuality cashes out.

The fact we can't seem to talk about this without assuming people have bad intentions, lumping them together with other people via association fallacies, and strawmanning people as being bigoted while misunderstanding or deliberately misrepresenting their experience/position is silly. It's obviously a nuanced subject, and human sexuality is complex. There could well be some unrecognized validity to a differentiation between sex-based vs gender-based attraction, and it seems like it would benefit the LGBT rights movements to be able to acknowledge these kinds of experiences, of people who are genuinely supportive of LGBT, rather than immediately demonizing it without trying to understand it. Maybe we can have a bit of good faith here?

(Btw, I don't identify with the super straight label nor with the sexuality type it describes even with the bigotry removed, but I don't find it to be justified to criticize people for having this particular experience of sexual attraction, and think it deserves a proper unproblematic term, or multiple words related to the larger concept of sex vs gender based attraction).

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I can sense this is going to get downvoted probably. I know you guys probably love all aspects of the game so it's understandable. But I'm not into story based games. I'm into more active gameplay (mostly combat/adventure), of which there is a lot in Cyberpunk that's actually good. I just want to know how to get the most action with this game and skip through the story, yeah I know I'm missing stuff, but that's not what I got the game for. I just want gameplay, not story or dialogue or choose your own adventure stuff.

I chose Corpo and I'm not sure if it's the best path since I read that it has a lot of dialogue. I'm so uninterested in the dialogue that I skip through all of it while choosing random/default options mostly, until I can get to more action gameplay or at least get to walk around and look at stuff which is fun.

I saw gameplay footage online which sold me on the game, and it had someone shooting at robots and fighting different enemies a lot with space age futuristic weaponry and settings. That's what I want from this game. How can I get to fight robots properly (not the dummy robot you have a fist fight with in the ring but actual warbots with weapons that are a real threat)? Does the Corpo go up against robots at some point or is that something reserved for Streetkid? I just want the most combat and gameplay possible with the least dialogue/story-driven stuff.

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Since your example isn't accurate, I'll modify it to make a more apt analogy.

Cust: I am looking for a passage of text from an obscure book.

Clerk: Ok, what is the book you are looking for.

Cust: It's called "Ancient Unholy Incantations"

Clerk: oh, why do you want that book? Why why why?

Cust: I can't really say because it's various things I can't really remember.

Clerk: Tell me! Or else I can't help. I physically can't. It's not that I don't want to because I don't believe your intentions are good and need convincing. Something... would prevent me from doing so.

Cust: Ok well it's sort of for a lot of different purposes, like just random stuff, maybe for making my dog happy, or for helping grow my garden.

Clerk: No, no, tell me more! What is it? You haven't given me enough information. I can't help you!

Cust: Are you sure it's not just that you don't want to because you assume my intentions are bad?

Clerk: You are alt-right!!!

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

Also, people are being incredibly rude for no reason. "Little homie"? And why are you assuming my gender? Weird internet stuff.

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

I have almost given up commenting at all. But I use YouTube and watch videos, read comments, and often want to say something. We should be able to. Hopefully someone knows the answer. I already saw a recommendation from someone on Reddit to use certain alternate characters but they didn't specify what and they still aren't working for me so I'm looking for a specific text format that remains undeleted.

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

It's not even just words. It's phrases that don't contain any bad language at all. If you don't know you don't know. They're silencing free speech. And like I said, completely sensible things that there's no reason to delete, while toxic comments and foul language remain undeleted.

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It just annoys me because I'm not going to order it and I'm abstaining from alcohol. But there's always some "special deals" being advertised by UberEats on alcohol, as well as meat, dairy and eggs. It's like they're really sleazy and desperate to hawk these products.

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

I have a friend who moved to America for a short time then when they returned, they had an American accent. But people didn't believe it and mocked them saying "that's not your real accent". I'm kind of worried the same will happen for me..

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As strange as it may seem, I hate my accent and want to speak like an American because I think it sounds cooler and more like how I want to sound.

I've more or less perfected my version of an American accent on my own, I think.

But whenever I'm with other people who know me, I revert back to my old accent instinctively because that's how they know me to sound like. I'm unsure about how I can subtly transition without them noticing a sudden change, such as through gradual exposure to my accent changing more each time they hear it. That way I could argue that I don't know how it happened and it was a slow progression if they eventually realise it's different, rather than something forced that I started doing one day.

The biggest thing I think is changing the pronunciation of certain words with "a", such as going from "fahst" to "faast" for the word 'fast', or "mahsk" to "maask" for 'mask'. Because it's really one or the other, there's no in-between. I feel like for most other sounds, a gradual transition into more American sounds can be possible, but that one's like, how can I make the plunge and will people notice it straight away and think it's weird?

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago

We're all just choosing to spend our time staring at pixels on a screen.

So true lol. Slightly unrelated but I had an epiphany once that we use our touch devices so frequently, and of course we're interacting with data in different ways, but physically we're just sliding our fingers around on a pane of glass with lights behind it all the time. Must look so weird to monkeys ๐Ÿ˜‚

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 12 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

But I enjoy those mobile-only games ๐Ÿ˜… How would I play them otherwise? And I think touch interfaces allow for some gameplay you wouldn't ever get anywhere else, like swipe actions and multi-finger gestures, which you can see in games like Infinity Blade or Fruit Ninja (or even True Skate, which seems to have quite a following, not my fave personally but I can't imagine that on any other device)

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The Infinity Blade or Minigore series, for example, or anything made by Illusion Labs. These games are genius and most consoles don't even have a touch screen or utilise it well like some smartphone games do.

Also why do people look at me weirdly ๐Ÿ‘€ when I play games on my phone in public while waiting for something?

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 11 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Use case example: You're busy doing something, but you send a message to someone and leave the chat open because you can't close it at that second. You look away from your phone and continue what you were doing. A message comes through but because the chat is open, you don't hear a sound. Then you get back to your phone 30 minutes later, and find that the person had already replied to you 27 minutes ago. If the sound still played even while the chat was open, you would have stopped what you were doing and responded to them as soon as you got their message.

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When inside the chat itself, there is no notification sound for incoming messages. The messages just show visually, with no audio.

But when outside of the chat, or not in the messages app, the sounds occur when messages come in.

This was the case on multiple Samsung phones, and with multiple different messages apps for SMS/MMS/RCS.

Is there a way to solve this? Couldn't find any solutions after researching

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

Meh, too much story for me. I know there's some gameplay, but it's a lot of walking around while just observing stuff happening, too much for my liking.

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 11 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

The Last of Us, The Walking Dead game and other Telltale games, Uncharted, The Witcher, God of War, and I guess it's just a general trend I feel. A lot of games seem to focus on story-driven elements more than gameplay, with an obsession around graphics and story more than anything else (see what Mohamed Enieb says on Twitter, for example).

And I guess this is somewhat separate, but... why don't trailers show any gameplay, just cinematic stuff? I don't play games for the visuals or story personally, I just want good gameplay. I find it increasingly hard to find games I actually enjoy.

What happened to the likes of Ratchet & Clank, Jak series, Lost Planet, or the Halo series? Those are games with good gameplay, and I couldn't care less about the stories (or graphics).

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Or why do they need to change the appearance from the original version of the page at all? It just looks unaesthetic

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by PlogLod@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

How do you say something like that?

"There's a thing for which I don't know what it is" "There's a thing where I don't know what it is" "There's a thing that I don't know what is"

or (the one which I hear people say a lot but sounds awkward:) "There's a thing that/which I don't know what it is"?

To be honest they all sound awkward to me to varying degrees

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As we see there are 2 meanings of "so-called" that can be confused or misinterpreted, of which one implies falsehood and the other doesn't.

One. to show that something or someone is commonly designated by the name or term specified.

"Western Countries belonging to the so-called Paris club"

Two. used to express one's view that such a name or term is inappropriate.

"she could trust him more than any of her so-called friends"

Since so-called I feel is very often used to suggest that a title for something describes a meaning that isn't necessarily accurate, what's another term that simply expresses that something is titled something without judgment of the title?

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When I get a lack of sleep (or especially multiple nights of bad sleep), I often have a splitting headache the next day that makes me unfunctional and worsens until I get more sleep. Other people I'm with have the exact same sleeping routines and never get any headaches, and can still function despite being tired. What's wrong with me?

[-] PlogLod@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

But the Australian people already voted in Anthony Albanese, so whatever he does as the democratically elected leader is basically democratic isn't it? Why would we need a separate vote for each decision when he could just make those decisions as the elected head of parliament?

(Also I would add that when people chose Anthony Albanese as PM, they would have known he intended to strengthen indigenous representation and rights, so a Yes vote for Anthony was already a yes vote for Indigenous Voice, in my view).

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