I still check this place regularly, but don't really post much stuff because I'm on meds that kinda make it hard to get frisky. I also still post somewhat regularly using my sfw account.

Honestly it's a shame that Lemmy didn't take off as well as we hoped it would, but at least everything is in place for the next time Reddit shoots itself in the foot. Special shout-out to the people regularly posting content to communities even though they don't get many responses.

Hey. I know I've not been posting much, but I still lurk around here.

Honestly, the past few weeks for me have been filled with anxiety over "purges" of adult content and similar, so it's been nice to find a place such as this which is friendly towards it. I know that there has been a few pretty bad incidents here in the past, and I can see not wanting to continue the site because of them, but I hope you do. And if you do shut down the site, thank you for running it while you could.

With regards to the lemmy.ml issue, I've been getting sentiments across the lemmyverse (mostly from .world) that they aren't worth interacting with. Mostly because they are very blockhappy towards anything that disagrees with their political views. Honestly, personally I'm perfectly happy with using Yiffit to only browse Yiffit communities. Like I said, it's nice and cozy here, and we can always make accounts on more general purpose instances if we really need to.

Oh my god. You're wearing a suit that, I assume, absorbs moisture like a sponge.

Why would you lean against the space between two urinals?

I like "Giffit".

Pronounced "Yiffit" of course.

(I also assume everyone has seen that meme).

So, in a comment that is now lost to time, I mentioned frustration at Lemmy not having an instance block feature.

Decided to check, and it looks like it's actively being worked on https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/pull/3869 .

Doubt it'll help with defederation (since we are mostly a porn instance after all), but would be good for the common yiff fearing user.

I know I shouldn't engage, but you are right. Not everyone wants to see furry porn on their all feed. And as a moderator of a porn community I'd like to have the ability to say "you know what, I'd rather posts be unlisted and not appear in the all feed". Maybe even if I were running my own instance I could block some of the more riskier communities.

But none of these tools exist yet, unlisted posts and per-user instance wide blocklists would be really nice features. If you don't like this sort of content, you could just mute yiffit.net and go on with your life.

There are two established major porn lemmy instances, both of which are blocked by lemmy.ml. If they saw this as a problem IMO they should implement instance blocking as a priority. But they haven't, and decided that blocking access to people is the better option. The situation is getting super frustrating at this point.

Honestly probably not that surprising considering they seem to be very anti-porn and I think are the only major instance to actually block you from looking at NSFW content (which makes me wonder how porn got there in the first place, did someone forget to tag something?).

For better or worse, I'm kind of glad that lemmy.world emerged as the big superinstance rather than lemmy.ml, they seem to be a bit more generalist.

I was going to just leave a few bullet points and then leave, because this kind of thing kinda makes me feel uncomfortable and frustrated. But then I started thinking and there are two related things I kinda... Wanna get off my chest, I guess?

Firstly, my thoughts on the matter:

• IMO, platforms (Twitter, Mastodon instances, Subreddits, etc.) should be able to limit what they deem acceptable. I may not like it when they do so (Especially if they have a monopoly e.g. Paypal and Patreon), but ultimately it's their right to do so.
• I define whether something is morally "right or wrong" based on consent. If all parties involved fully understand what is going on and consent to it, then IMO there is no moral issue. This does imply that platforms should gain your consent before showing you certain things (although not in an obnoxious data gathery way...).
• Anyone who claims to act upon some objective moral standard other than that, and goes on crusades to try to "purify" people or groups deserve a spot in hell. Especially if they make up some nonsense about it being tied to pedophilia or bestiality. If you don't like NSFW furry stuff, just don't engage. Hell, put "SFW Furry" or something in your bio if you want to raise awareness that it's not all NSFW.
• Bestiality is not furry. It doesn't meet the definition, isn't moral and we should try to kick people like that out.

Also, yes I know you can probably poke some holes in my stance. It's the best I can do, and most people's moral codes have holes in them.

Anyway, onto things I want to get off my chest. When I was younger, I only really consumed NSFW furry stuff (which is probably still what I do nowadays), and that filled me with a lot of guilt. I knew the fandom had this reputation of being NSFW, and I felt that me being into it in that way was making me somehow complicit? I didn't go on any crusades or anything, but I did annoyingly point out "btw it's not just a sex thing" when furry came up. I hope that nowadays either that reputation has died down or people are becoming more accepting that everything has a sex element. But yeah, I can kinda see where they are coming from, I guess. They love this stuff and don't want it to have the "bad" reputation.

Another thing I want to bring up about me is... Feral makes me uncomfortable. I understand the Harkness test, and that they can talk and consent and all that, but it feels a little too close to bestiality for my tastes. I even blacklist it in the communities I run even though I know most people there are probably fine with it. I saw a post a while back which to me just looked like an (animal) cheetah with his bits out, and I'm just wondering why that is "furry". I can kinda see why places ban human x feral because it's super unclear to me where the line is.

So a question to feral furry peeps, if you don't mind me asking, where do you draw the line between "feral" and "animal"?

/uj For what it's worth, as someone who posts quite a bit of stuff there, I also wish full instance per-user blocks were a thing. I like that stuff, but I understand some people don't and rather not force furry tiddies on them. ;_;

/rj But yes, certainly avoid yiffit.net if you don't like that sort of thing. :P

Edit: To those wondering if their instance is blocking it, afaik lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works do not. You can check the instance list at the bottom of the page. Or I guess check if you can see this comment, since my account is on there.

You also won't see furry porn if you have nsfw off in the settings. Or if you don't linger in r/all for too long (there's only like 5 of us posting regularly, it's easy for it to get drowned out).

I... Really don't understand why people would browse the "all" feed with NSFW filters disabled, it just doesn't seem to be a pleasent experience. There's much worse than a dog man with his dick out that'll be on that feed. Violence, gore, scat, extreme porn, politics and the full range of offensive comments. Or even, depending on who your instance federates with, stuff like loli and bestiality.

People browsing "all" should be willing and ready to blacklist communities that post things that they find objectionable, rather than deciding that the "all" feed should be automatically curated for their preferences.

Would be nice if there was a seperate "NSFW" toggle for the "all" feed, full instance blocks or even specific, blockable NSFW tags.

I don't know!

Whatever I am, I think I have a strong leaning towards women, and I think I could only see myself romantically interested with a woman long term.

However, with men, it's... Strange, and I'm wondering how common this is in the community. Basically, I don't find human men intrinsically attractive, but I do like furry men. Like maybe something in my brain chemistry doesn't see them as male? I'm not sure. I even ERP through text with a furry guy friend!

BDSM wise... I do love good bondage, particularly novel and interesting scenarios that get stuck into my head~ I don't actually mind IRL men in bondage most of the time. In theory I'm a switch, but I think I've been leaning more towards sub nowadays, probably due to life stuff.

Also, !hornychat when. :P

I've certainly had days where I wish I could just turn off and be an uwu no thoughts puppy...