are you from east or southeast or south Asia

I never understood this. If rent wasn't so stupid high I would've had my own place long ago.

Purely for dumb reasons. If you don't need to escape from them and it makes financial sense go for it and ignore anyone who judges you for it... they're assholes.

Makes things awkward when you want to bring a lady back to your place.

I would have but I got caught up in the great recession before I could leave.

then when I finally got enough money to consider looking for a place, I received a very serious medical condition that wiped out finances and seriously affected my working ability. this condition also makes it almost necessary for someone to be around. so unless I hit the powerball or megamillions I'm going to be in my parents house for a while.

Now that a) it's impossible to afford rent and it's becoming more common and b) we're transitioning from Boomers (who tended to have a more antagonistic and condescending relationship with their children) to Gen X being the "older generation", I suspect that perception is in the process of changing now-a-days.

But previous generations were expected to nag the shit out of their kids to get a job and/or spouse and a house so the parents could do cruises full time in their retirement or some such. So to a large extent, it was societal pressure and people got the idea that living with your parents was "pathetic" *from their parents.

Disregarding different societal norms, I find it interesting that some people don't have the intrinsic need to gtfo to a more personal space, be it either nice or shitty parents.

Scrolled through the thread long enough and I still only see people blaming stigma and capitalism but... Those are just the end effects.

It's plain toxic masculinity:

• A man must be strong
• Independence is a sign of strength
• Living with your parents is dependence (for good or for bad is irrelevant)
• ipso facto, according to toxic masculinity, guys who live with their parents are weak and not "real men"

Back when I was a kid in the early 2000s we still had the mentality that it was easy to get a good job and buy a house and love by yourself. So when a young adult didn't, the stigma was that they were too lazy to get a great job handed to them.

Since at least the 2008 recession that really hasn't been the case, but the culture hasn't caught up, or was slower to catch up.

Must be an american skill issue

Because the last gen of parents struggle to let their kids grow up

Love my family, would hate living with them - just because we are very different people.

In 10 years, that will be the norm.

Depends on how old you are. There is nothing wrong with living with your parents till your early 20s.

But if you're still living with them when you're going on 40, something has probably gone wrong for you.

It's a disgrace - but only because the system is so messed up. I'm old enough to own my own house but my kids probably never will unless they live with me well into their 30s and save like crazy. My generation and those before me have screwed up the housing market.

I think folks are missing a huge cultural point of moving out with roommates. It's culturally acceptable to move away from parents but live with like 3+ roommates starting with college / university and then well into establishing your career. I did this and most folks I know did this in Canada. Honestly some of the greatest times of my life. I and my roommates moved out at 18 to do this and I wouldnt have done it any other way. So many great independence skills came up during that time and just a great sense of freedom (even with working and school being a huge part of everything)