You are not replaceable for your family

Wanna bet?

Just don’t have kids to focus on working even harder.

The difficult part is that I’m not working late by choice, but by obligation. I don’t want my family to remember me losing my job and any downstream effects from that.

Luckily there’s only a few weeks per year that are crunch time and require me to stay late.

I worked at a company for just under ten years, the last four with pretty much constant crunch, putting in 12 to sometimes 18 hours daily as a SALARIED EMPLOYEE. My marriage was on the rocks and I finally had enough. Found a new job working no more than 40 hours a week for a promotion and far more pay. My reward for all that extra free work was my former company refusing to match salary and me not getting a shipping bonus for a product that had shipped before I left.

Don't be like me. Get out and find something more fulfilling.

This hits close to home 🙁

Bold of you to assume I’ll have kids Or be alive for 20 more years

Challenge accepted.

-that cheating whore.

Yeah but kids will also remember and have the deepest appreciation for parents who put in overtime so they could afford to give their kids the best childhood possible

This is just not actually true, though? I do remember my past coworkers and who was working late and checking emails on weekends. I'm not saying they should have been, but I for sure remember them doing it.

This is the fucking truth. Money is never worth missing important moments.

I absolutely remember coworkers that worked late and went above and beyond. The difference though is that some of them worked late because they were much slower than their peers while others worked late because they always willing to help during a crisis.

I didn’t have control over comp back then, but as soon as I landed a lucrative project and needed a few software engineers, the ones that went above and beyond were the first ones I called. I was able to 3x their previous salaries. The 3rd guy I managed to get 1.5x.

They are providing for their families very well now with house and car purchases. YMMV.

Nothing wrong with coasting if you are comfortable. For others working hard is a habit or necessity.

I won't have kids so 🤷‍♂️

It was the bar instead of the office for my father. Then he decided to drunkenly beat the everliving fuck out of my mother in front of me, gifting me with lifelong PTSD and the inability to recall "happy" childhood memories (that one flasbulb memory is all that comes up). When he dies I want to go to his funeral to make sure they stick his ass good and deep in the ground. May see if they'll let me shovel some dirt in. Wish the fucker would have stayed at work.

I can't afford to have children.

You're also not replaceable for your friends. Don't work hard and play hard - just play hard. Your company will get rid of you as fast, if not faster, than they hired you.

Well, I was very replaceble to my dad.

Yes I never work over 40 hours.