My ex is an actress. It never bothered me really. She saw it as part of the job and I do too. I'm the one she's looking for in the audience and taking her home at the end of the show lol.
My ex was an opera singer, same thing. I was in one of her shows (in the chorus) and I wasn't sure how I'd feel. Seeing it, it's the least romantic thing ever. The singers are sweaty and nasty and it's not really pleasant. It might have helped that I knew the guy well enough too.
I'd be curious to see the data of married Hollywood celebrities and how long their relationships last vs how many intimate scenes they have on film are. Of course, the data would be nearly worthless because humans are complex and there are millions of valid reasons why a relationship would end, but I'd like to see the numbers, anyway.
Not in Hollywood, but a local actress here got divorced by her husband when he saw a sex scene in his wife's new Netflix show. Apparently the actress didn't tell her husband that the show would have some sex scenes and the husband got real mad. Why do Netflix shows always have unnecessary sex scenes anyway?
What kind of Netflix shows are you watching?
The Netflix Marvel shows they made had some pretty useless sex scenes that look very weird in Disney's catalogue these days... And god damn the violence is turned to eleven compared to current Marvel shows! That 11 minute one take fight in Daredevil season 3 is hot as fuck!
This is why I have little faith in the new Disney Plus Daredevil series.
If it's not brutal as fuck it won't be the same
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I recently watched Wednesday again with a friend - great Netflix show without sex scenes. Good fun, great mystery and loveable cast of characters!
Serves her right, that's straight up cheating...
I don't know why you're down voted, you're absolutely right. Any kind of extra marital intimacy is cheating sans consent from the other person.
Depends on how they set boundaries in their marriage, which they absolutely should have. Movie sex usually has a completely different motive and execution than regular cheating.
The fact she didn't even bother telling the guy is enough of a red flag.
Why do you think they are unnecessary? Do you say the same thing about violence scenes? I enjoy sex scenes much more than violence scenes and feel like movies just keep increasing the latter and decreasing the former.
There's this thing called "porn", you might like it.
As someone who too enjoys sex scenes in movies and doesn't really get the hate for them - I really dislike (most) porn, and probably for the same reasons.
Sex and intimacy are a huge part of human relationships. Sex scenes in movies show (and not just tell) those relationships, where they stand, how they develop. There is no real intimacy in (most) porn. Porn doesn't tell stories, it doesn't show human relationships, it just depicts body parts smashing into each other basically. Very rarely a porn video is good enough to suspend my disbelief so I can imagine the important, the romantic part of it and forget that I'm watching either the product of an explorative industry or the fetish of a couple who film themselves because they like to have themselves watched by strangers. But to show me the dynamic between two fleshed out characters, how it changes over time, and what relevance sex has to them - porn can't do that.
Those scenes can usually be replaced with a black screen and the plot won't be affected at all. On the other hand, violence scene usually still affect the plot though some scenes are unnecessarily violent.
Maybe they are not insecure?
Be as secure as you will, if you see your SO in a romance scene in a typical hig h profile movie with all the right camera angles and music and all... it's bound to do at least something to you, right?
No that's the point. If you are not insecure and trust your partner then you know it's just acting.
I'm not suggesting that they might assume any of the acted scene had real feelings behind it. Yet still, visually seeing your SO seemingly doing intimate stuff will make you feel something. You might not be jealous or anything, yet still. That has nothing to do with insecurity. You can feel awkward without jealousy, can't you?
As a former polyamoric person, here's how I (still) think of it: You can't control your feelings (they are merely physical reactions to situations) but you can control how you deal with them. Or how you act on them.
So in a sense, in my opinion, you're both correct.
There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars. It's just their work at the end of the day.
I'm sure plenty of people don't really feel anything about it.
There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars.
From a purely logical standpoint, given the number of strippers and porn stars out there, that statement must be true. It's not quite something I can wrap my head around though.
Not really. Especially when you know what goes into filming them. From modesty underwear to lighting to 30 people around you just doing their thing for the production.
As a spouse of an actor you’d think you know just how “fake” the music and emotional impact is.
They are professionals. It's part of the job. It'd be like being a spouse to a stripper. You know what they are doing, so you should be ok with it.
They feel a paycheck coming their way most likely
If they're paying my wife 1 million a day she can kiss whoever they want.
That's quite an indecent proposal!
There was a movie about that but I can't remember the name
My wife went to school with someone from a popular TV show a few years back, where she'd be in sex scenes fairly frequently (from what I hear, I watched a few episodes and hated it). She had a long-term boyfriend at the time, and it didn't take long for him to not be cool with it.
She also went to school with a musician that had a stab at a solo career. She had some raunchy scenes in a music vid, and that quickly led to her breaking up with her boyfriend.
Those are my only two frames of reference, but I imagine it's quite hard to deal with emotionally, even if you know it meant nothing and is just a part of the job.
Ever wondered why the divorce rate in hollywood is so high? Must not be easy to deal with that shit
Well I doubt they care because they are also acting in a different movie kissing someone else.
I'm sure the divorce rate is high because they are limited to a small dating pool. The average person, you and I, are not severely limited to other famous people, and divorce rate for normal people like us is extremely high as well.
Just do what Leo does and date some random teenage Instagram model.
I doubt those relationships last long or are fulfilling, but I also doubt any celebrity marriage is fulfilling and there's a lot more baggage involved.
Let's be real. A lot of people in the comments are saying "it's just a job", but that's irrelevant. Prostitution and stripping are both jobs, and I guarantee those who work in either have a vastly more difficult time finding people okay with that.
Is it impossible for the significant other to be okay with it? No. Will it be harder to have a relationship? Definitely.
They feel with their hands and fingers mostly.
I sometimes wonder about that word "finger". If fingers fing, then what is finging?
Fuck you OP for that title, I can't unsee it.
It really depends on the actor. I think we can all agree that not every actor has the same emotional maturity and therefore will not all react the same to it. For example, take a look at what Jonah Hill expects from his partners versus Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively seeming to be a healthy couple while both have had some raunchy scenes in movies featuring other people.
