Vet technician, 33, is scraping by in a small city Ontario house her parents paid for: ‘It’s a lot of guilt’ : canada

[-] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 44 points 10 months ago

Say whatever you want about her spending habits but $35k for a vet tech job is fucking criminal. Why are we paying essentially minimum wage for an extremely high stress job that requires at least two years of schooling??

[-] moistclump@lemmy.world 22 points 10 months ago

I feel like jobs like these are passion jobs. Or employers feel like if it’s something you’re passionate about and care about, then you should be willing to do it for less.

For example, had a few friends work for the Canucks. I’m pretty sure the family who owns Canuck’s are billionaires, but because the people who work there are passionate about the sport and the team, they get away with below living wages for the privilege of just being around.

Obviously not the same, but… yeh. We under pay people who care and feel indebted to their clients and the work they love.

[-] karlhungus@lemmy.ca 14 points 10 months ago

Game developers seem to get paid very little for something that's very difficult.

At the root i think passion among a great many people for (games, animals, hockey), leads to an oversupply of talent, which leads to depressed wages.

[-] bitsplease@lemmy.ml 7 points 10 months ago

When I was in college for a CS degree, just about every single classmate I asked said they were planning on going into game dev, when you have entire graduating classes all gunning for the same positions in a relatively niche field, you can pay peanuts and still fill roles

[-] moistclump@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago

Ah good example! I’m hoping that unions help our game developer friends.

[-] Adramis 36 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

ITT: Crabs in a bucket arguing about how "You could totally climb that wall if you weren't spending so much on avocado toast!" while the water pot next to them starts to boil.

[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 5 points 10 months ago

I would like to understand what you are saying.

The "crabs in a bucket" idea refers to:

The analogous theory in human behavior is that members of a group will attempt to reduce the self-confidence of any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy, jealousy, resentment, spite, conspiracy, or competitive feelings, to halt their progress.

How does it apply here? She is not "achieving success beyond the others" and we are not trying to stop her from doing so. Quite the opposite! We are trying to help people who find themselves in a similar position make the best out off the budget they have so that they can make ends meet like we do.

In other words, we are crabs who have gotten out of the debt bucket and are trying to help others come out as well.

The other analogy you seem to be alluding to is the "frog in a pot":

The boiling frog is an apologue describing a frog being slowly boiled alive. The premise is that if a frog is put suddenly into boiling water, it will jump out, but if the frog is put in tepid water which is then brought to a boil slowly, it will not perceive the danger and will be cooked to death.

What I can tell you from experience is that during periods of hardship, the ability to adapt makes a huge difference and puts you in a much better position mentally and financially when things inevitably get better. Because this too shall pass.

[-] tempest@lemmy.ca 10 points 10 months ago

They are referring to the people in this thread are debating about her spending habits without looking at the bigger picture.

We are the crabs.

[-] sbv@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 months ago

hello, police? I'd like to report a murder

[-] RaoulDook@lemmy.world 15 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Really? What do her bills look like? Is she ordering DoorDash for every meal?

Give me a free house and car, and I could easily live on half that much money.

EDIT: Here's what the article says. This looks like a pretty random budget, and the house was not free as the headline suggests.

Her typical monthly expenses:

Investments: $0

Savings: $0

Pensions: $0

Taxes: $415 in monthly tax deductions

Household: $2,175

Mortgage: $1,162.70

Utilities: $233

Hydro: $165

Internet: $135

Property tax: $216

Property insurance: $184

Phone bill: $80

Transportation: $384

Car repairs: $50

Car insurance: $184

Gas: $150

Food and drink (total): $520

Groceries: $400

Eating out: $60

Coffee/tea: $20

Alcohol: $40

Miscellaneous (dental, clothing, other shopping, nails, hair, spa etc) - $680

Her cats: $350 (food, meds and litter)

Haircuts/cosmetics: $150

Prescriptions: $100

Dental: $0 this year

Clothing: $50

Apps: $30

Vacations: $0

Hobbies/recreation: $0

[-] SkepticalButOpenMinded@lemmy.ca 35 points 10 months ago

Maybe you agree with this, but where's the fat? Is a vet not allowed to have pets? It's still a barebones budget.

And the thing to realize about high stress professional jobs is that you have to eat out more and make use of services to save time and energy. It's a tough demanding job, especially for the pay. There's a reason why vets have amongst the highest suicide rates of any profession.

[-] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 13 points 10 months ago

Vet techs too (family member manages a vet hospital) with the suicide risk.

There are so many frustrated, worried people coming in who don't understand the vet is busy doing so much with so few staff and the reason your appointment has been bumped is because the vet is gone, either left the city, the profession or this plane of existence. All too often the last option, and everyone's working through the fall-out.

And vets largely don't see people unless during the exam with an animal; the rest of the time its vet-techs or reception/admin staff. And people lose their metric shit at appointment changes, bad news, or even the bill (because it's always high; get insurance, kids). Admins and techs take the full Karen tornado, which while understandable is still not justifiable. Not cool.

So they shed a customer and sometimes they lose staff too. And they're no longer losing the slackers who don't care about animals: they're losing the animal nuts whose hearts used to be in it. Sometimes those people leave this life as well. It's that bad, that often, for that long.

So yeah, they blow off a lot of steam and leverage those social peer bonds, and I don't see that pressure valve here. You're either gonna spend money on frivolity, psyche sessions, or worse. So those numbers need to be higher for the short term.

[-] RaoulDook@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Her utilities are higher than my 3 bedroom house's. Phone bill is a bit high, Internet bill is double what it should be, property tax and insurance are high, haircuts, cosmetics, shopping all could be reduced. The cat bill is ridiculous, unless those are some sick pets with long term illnesses or she has about 30 normal ones.

Bottom line is that is not the budget of someone who's "Struggling" in life. Struggling would be not having the money to do half the things on that budget.

[-] spacecowboy@sh.itjust.works 13 points 10 months ago

Thanks for informing the group that you’re out of touch and don’t know what you’re talking about.

[-] RaoulDook@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

Whatever, I'm the one who's out of touch but I have a very good budget and all my bills are paid. Do you own a house? Because I do and I manage all the household bills and I do know how to make ends meet on a budget.

You are free to ignore my info at your own risk.

[-] Maalus@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago

Do you own that on the mentioned vet's salary?

[-] RaoulDook@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

I bought it when I was making about $40k salary actually

[-] baconisaveg@lemmy.ca 7 points 10 months ago

$135 for Internet and $80 for mobile is criminal. I pay $130/month for internet, but that's for high speed fiber, because I work from home as a software engineer. I also only pay $35/month for mobile after switching to Virgin because Telus' prices are insane.

I miss living in California and paying $20/month for Google Fi.

[-] Showroom7561@lemmy.ca 6 points 10 months ago

Her typical monthly expenses:

Internet: $135

Phone bill: $80

Car repairs: $50

Car insurance: $184

Gas: $150

Groceries: $400

Eating out: $60

Coffee/tea: $20

Alcohol: $40

Her cats: $350 (food, meds and litter)

Haircuts/cosmetics: $150

Apps: $30

Ok, she doesn't have an income problem, she has a spending problem.

The internet + phone bill of over $200 a month is insane! She can negotiate/switch her internet bill to at least half that. And she can switch her cell phone to something like public mobile for 1/4 of what she's paying now.

Car repairs, gas, insurance... if you can bike in your small town, this will save you a fortune. Also, consider switching to CAA's pay-as-you-go insurance, which works incredibly well if you also bike.

Food... way, WAY overspending here. $400 a month could feed a family of four, so that needs to be looked at. And "eating out, coffee, alcohol" should be cut completely if she's struggling.

Her cats... well, pets are a money pit. This will always keep her debt.

Haircuts/cosmetics. I'm not a lady, so I can't say whether this is a typical expense or not, but unless she makes a living based on her appearance, this should be trimmed (no pun intended) to a more reasonable level.

Apps... I'm going to assume these are subscription services totalling $30 a month. Insane. Cut those out unless absolutely necessary.

If someone can help her budget, she could easily be saving $500+ a month with little effort.

$50k for an individual living in a small town should have her living like a queen.

[-] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 53 points 10 months ago

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[-] SapientLasagna@lemmy.ca 5 points 10 months ago

Public mobile is Telus's discount brand. They have service everywhere Telus does. The other major carriers have their own discount branded services. You don't get much (or any) data, but it's a lot cheaper.

[-] LeafTheTreesAlone@lemmy.ca 4 points 10 months ago

I pay $112 for bell fiber internet and $42 for virgin 20gb after taxes. No bundles. Phone is paid for. I live in a small town 45mins from the 401? You can certainly get cheaper internet/phone than $200 a month. Although between the 2 of us, we average more than $100 person/week. We certainly don’t buy the cheapest we can but we budget where we choose.

[-] liverpoolbutter@lemmy.ca 4 points 10 months ago

Public Mobile is owned by Telus, there shouldn't be the problems you describe. I live in the middle of nowhere with Lucky Mobile. Text and talk with no data is $15/month.

But that's not what is normal amoung my peers. The expenses look reasonable to me, but could be optimized further. Normally, optimizing your expenses that much wouldn't be your part time job, but with the current wage situation, that's where we are at.

[-] Showroom7561@lemmy.ca 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

What an incredibly out of touch comment. Do you live in Canada and do you pay for telecoms? Those are the going rates. Good luck getting an internet and phone plan for less than $200/month.

All my life. Perhaps you haven't looked for savings in these areas?

FYI: Public Mobile (my provider for years) has unlimited calling and text w/ 1gb data and ongoing perks for $25 / month. Even $40 would get you 30GB of data and 5g... not sure why you'd want anyone to spend double that when they are struggling financially.

Internet isn't as easy, but all these companies can offer discounted rates. She needs to get internet that fits her needs (I pay $84 tax in for Bell TV and 1GB fibre to my home). $135 is crazy.

It’s not feasible to switch to small carriers like public mobile because they only have cell coverage in major cities. The moment you leave and go towards suburbs or rural you’re on roaming.

LOL. She lives in a University town, and you're saying she won't get cell service from a company like Telus? Give me a break.

I’d like to see you suggest to someone in real life who’s living in Canada that they should use their bike in the winter to do groceries. The fact is, having a car in Canada (unless you live downtown in a city) is mandatory.

Oh boy. She doesn't have to get groceries in the snow by bike... but if she can offload some of her driving to bike (for any reason), she'll save money.

It also doesn't suggest that she's commuting out of town, so biking in a "small town" should be simple for anyone.

Also I know for a fact you have never done groceries in Canada because $400/month is BELOW average for households. In my house we always buy the basics and we spend around $650 per month. That’s with the cheapest versions of every item and we don’t buy processed foods.

Have for decades... sounds like you need to figure stuff out on your end.

Troll somewhere else.

Amazing how someone can take actual advice based on personal experience, and consider it "trolling".

Learn more about how to be frugal, and perhaps you'd agree with my suggestions. Or continue to overspend.

This woman is obviously struggling, and there are very easy fixes for most of her spending habits.

[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 4 points 10 months ago

Amazing how someone can take actual advice based on personal experience, and consider it “trolling”

This is the biggest problem, isn't it? I understand somebody not knowing how to live frugally, but at the very least they should be open to learning from people who do.

Don't worry, those of us who how to budget minimally know that you are speaking the truth.

[-] Showroom7561@lemmy.ca 5 points 10 months ago

I appreciate that. I've struggled for years before I really started looking at my expenses and saving wherever possible.

Most of the time, it requires no sacrifice, but a few minutes of effort.

The car insurance was a huge money saver for me. We were spending thousands a year on car insurance, whether we used the car or not. Switched to pay-as-you-go and started biking, and my insurance is like a few hundred a year at most.

The cell phone plan was another big saver. I was spending over $150 for three people a month, and now it's less than $50 for the same service!

Food is probably the most challenging, but only if you aren't willing to look at other options.

In any case, it's too easy for people to say that they aren't making enough money when it's their spending habits that really hurts them.

*** I do still think that people should be paid a livable wage, don't get me wrong, but if getting paid more means that someone will overspend more, then they will still be in the same situation. ***

[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

In any case, it’s too easy for people to say that they aren’t making enough money when it’s their spending habits that really hurts them.

Yup. It happens at all income levels, too. There are surgeons out there with nice homes, new cars, vacations and everything, but still living paycheck to paycheck. If you don't prioritize saving, guess what? You don't have savings.

[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Good luck getting an internet and phone plan for less than $200/month.

My own bills:

Internet (Beanfield): $40/mo including taxes.

Cell (Freedom): $34/mo per phone, incl taxes.

Beanfield may not be available everywhere, but Teksavvy has similar plans.

[-] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 12 points 10 months ago

Beanfield is only available to some condominium users in major downtown cities. It is not an available option to most Canadians, especially the vet tech in this article.

[-] Showroom7561@lemmy.ca 6 points 10 months ago

It is not an available option to most Canadians, especially the vet tech in this article.

It's a shame that the article doesn't specify which town, but it does say University town.

If I were to guess, especially since she's a vet tech, is that she lives in Guelph or Windsor. Other vet universities in Ontario are in much larger cities.

If that's the case, she has quite a few of options for phone and internet.

[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago

Beanfield may not be available everywhere, but Teksavvy has similar plans.

Teksavvy is available nearly everywhere and I know they have similar plans because I was a customer.

[-] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago

Definitely not the case. They serve suburbs and cities. I live semi rurally and they are not a possible option.

[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 1 points 10 months ago

She lives in a college town. The vast majority of people in Canada live in urban centers. So, for most single people in Canada, spending less than $200/mo in Internet+phone is trivially simple.

[-] baconisaveg@lemmy.ca 12 points 10 months ago

You're missing the point. Someone who does well in school and has a decent job requiring advanced education should not be struggling to make ends meet in a first world country.

[-] DillyDaily@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago

Yes, even if she trimmed her expenses (which I agree is possible, though I don't know much about Canada) she would still not be living a "good" life despite being well educated, and fully employed with stable housing. She would be living a safe, healthy and financially functional, but it would not be a sustainable, happy, and enjoyable life, and her savings contributions would be not be enough to give her financial independence without some serious investments.

[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 months ago

She would be living a safe, healthy and financially functional, but it would not be a sustainable, happy, and enjoyable life

As somebody living modestly, I'm laughing at this. It seems like people either overestimate how much satisfaction they get from their expenses, or they underestimate the peace of mind that comes from living within your means. I suspect it's mostly the former.

[-] DillyDaily@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

Living modestly isn't the same as trimming off all the fat to prioritise survival and savings above all else (which is what this vet tech would need to do to really make a difference for her financial state)

I'm on a very similar income ($36,000AUD) in a country with similar issues surrounding housing, and a quickly rising cost of living crisis. I'm not sure about her exact area, my cousin's in Edmonton, so that's my main reference point.

I live within my means and other than a student loan, I have no debt. But I also have no property and no real assets beyond the everyday items I need for work (laptop, phone, my bicycle)

It is very comforting and peaceful to live within my means. And I often experience a "simplified joy" in moments where work is calm, my family is happy and I have an afternoon off to take my time and bake this week's meals to keep the grocery budget happy and healthy.

But most of the time work is not calm, work is a major contributor of emotional and physical stress, and taking stress leave isn't quite yet a financial option (until I'm approaching mental health breaking point, which so far so good)

Usually the family isn't happy, I've got chronic health issues, my partner and I both have disabilities, it's vital we maintain chunky emergency funds because our savings disappear quickly when one of us needs to see a specialist (public healthcare in Australia is a mess at the moment) so if we're talking about going to the country for the weekend to have a relaxing holiday we're usually deciding its not worth the petrol, train or accommodation costs when for all we know I could require an urgent doctors appointment tomorrow and we'd wished we'd saved all that money.

We're financially smart in the sense that we are 5-6 big emergencies away from bankruptcy which is so much more than most people in my income bracket. But in our experience we tend to get our emergencies in waves where it's one right after another leading into each other. It's scary.

Fortunately we don't want kids, but if we did, I can't see how we'd do that without majority changes to my income stream.

It's also just exhausting to live on a strict budget all the time. I'm definitely getting fit biking halfway across town 3 times trying to shop at Aldi and veg markets because it's the most affordable grocery option, I'm lucky I'm not time poor, but many people working low wage jobs are. Mentally it's hard keeping track of everything all the time, comparing prices and holding back. It's socially exhausting, having to constantly remind friends that unless it's a free or very low cost outting, we won't be hanging out.

Being out at work and feeling exhausted and headachey and knowing some caffeine would help, but I forgot to pack a zip lock bag of instant coffee, so I'm out of options because that's what's budgeted for. So I finish out my day in pain. Likewise, I had to give up my monthly massages because it was a luxury my budget couldn't bear. It didn't reduce my physical capacity, but it has made my daily pain level higher which makes me less happy.

Small things like that's make me feel tired, frustrated, burnt out and angry that my income is so low.

But then I'll have a moment like today, where I'm harvesting the sunchokes i planted in August, thinking to myself, being poor prompted me to grow these, but having them here to water and watch grow has been so good for my mental health and this is such a rewarding experience.....but I could have also had this experience with money in my pocket.

I was definitely more happy and more comfortable 5 years ago when my same income had a higher buying power so my budget wasn't as tight.

I will never want to live outside my means. But boy howdy the cost of living here means I'm getting close to having to make the real tough decisions (like, do I really need to pay extra for certified allergen free ingredients, or can I gamble on the cheaper brands that "may contain traces of") to avoid blowing my budget.

[-] autotldr@lemmings.world 6 points 10 months ago

This is the best summary I could come up with:

She relies on a personal line of credit for unexpected expenses, whether it’s a broken appliance, car repairs or veterinary care for her cats.

In 2013, her parents bought her a 1,200-square-foot semi-detached two-bedroom house in a small Ontario city, a university town.

They have also previously paid off her credit card debt, bought her a used Honda CRV, covered a kitchen renovation and helped with other expenses.

At her job, Caitlyn handles everything from drawing blood, performing X-rays and giving injections to answering phones, doing paperwork and cleaning the office space.

“I think the old-school principle is if you go to school and you get good grades and then you go to post-secondary education … the thought process was then you live comfortably,” she said.

She rarely eats out, makes her coffee at home and has cut back on ordering in and drinking alcohol.

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[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

We are a family of four (renting) and we don't spend much more than her living alone. She needs to make some tough decisions if she wants to save some money every month.

[-] sbv@sh.itjust.works 6 points 10 months ago

Where is the difference in your budgets?

[-] frostbiker@lemmy.ca 3 points 10 months ago

The differences are everywhere.

We live in a small apartment and I personally can't see how a single person having budget constraints is living in a house. College towns have plenty of apartments suitable for single people.

We use transit, walking and cycling instead of having a car. She could probably do the same since she lives in a college town.

Our internet & phone bills are much lower because we shopped around and went for a basic plan and cellphones. We don't have pets or other luxuries.

Ultimately, if you have trouble making ends meet you have to start from scratch: what are the bare minimums that you need to be healthy? Housing, transportation, etc.

I understand that some people have trouble accepting that their generation's standard of living is worse than their parents', but their inabiliy to adapt isn't helping them. Most people around the world live much more basic lives than what is common in Canada, and they are able to thrive. They could learn from them.

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