One time. At band camp...
In high school a friend of a very attractive popular girl asked me if I liked popular girl. I thought she was playing some kind of prank on me so I said no. It was not a prank. She really did like me. To this day I wish I would have said yes.
One time a girl in my computer class kept asking me for help. She'd ask me to stand behind her and point to where she should click. She asked if the view was nice, which was weird since it's just a computer screen. Eventually, she decided I should move her hand while it was still on the mouse. That happened a lot and I always thought "wow this girl really doesn't get computers."
I was in my late 20s before I realized she wanted me to look down her top and touch her hand. She must have been thinking "wow this guy really doesn't get women"
Fuck that's the best cringe story yet
t-thanks
Baka
For all the sadcringe in this thread. This is true cringe. I feel the pain in my soul. She did basically everything but put your hand down her shirt.
Hell, I'm so socially inept that I interacted with girls in the past and then as they were leaving I was told that I did well at flirting with them, to which I responded with, "I was flirting?"
What is flirting but a good conversation with some complimenting and occasional teasing?
I really wish when I was younger people hadn’t put the title of “flirting” on having a fun conversation with people of the opposite sex, and put it on the checklist of getting a date. If people had just said “be yourself and try to have fun”, around all intersections (and not just as cheesy dating advice when talking about the opposite sex) I probably would’ve been a lot more successful in forming relationships in my teenage years.
Truth, friend. Truth.
you missed their flirting because you didn't liked them enough, or they didin't like you enough to say to you, or flirt until you take the hint
source: my girlfriend has social anxiety and is shy asf, but she really showed it, and i'm a dumbass
Oh I figured they were flirting only that this realisation occurred three months after the fact.
I would have very much wanted to date them.
Or because one or both parties are very socially inept.
Lady with social anxiety here to confirm. Flirting is useless. Every time I’ve just given up and asked the dude to date after being extremely forward for a while and they’re always shocked 🤷🏼♀️ Once we get past that, it’s great.
Nah, I've certainly had a few reflective moments where I realized my missed opportunities. The reality is, unless you're really confident and self-possessed, it's hard to put yourself out there. So I can understand why these guys didn't just spell it out for me, cause they likely weren't sure I was into them. And on my end, I always struggled with low self-esteem, so I just assumed that these attractive guys weren't actually into me and were just being nice/good friends.
Anyways, I'm glad your girlfriend is an exception to the rule.
you missed their flirting because you didn’t liked them enough
More likely that you missed it because you didn't like yourself enough to believe that they were sending out clear hints.
Thinking about that time I comped a cute girl's meal (she forgot her card and I had a line to the door). She came back after closing hours and knocked on the door. She was really greatful for me covering her meal and wanted to pay me back. I told her it was okay and then locked the door (without a further thought). She then stood there for a bit before leaving... Later a coworker came over and was like "dude, I think she wanted you to ask for her number." You could hear the gears turning in my head after that
A person could tell me out loud "I'm flirting with you" and my awkward ass would still find a way to fuck it up
By asking them "Why?"
You never know, they might just be Canadian.
"I'm flirting with you,"
"Why? Don't lie to me." Whilst I'm making a mental list of absolutely everything why that's complete bollocks
I had a girl in high school (high school!) literally say to me "when am I going to get to feel that dick of yours inside me?" and I blew it, thought she was just joking.
Imagine a girl you like putting a hand on your shoulder, looking into your eyes, saying some gentle word I don't quite remember due to being mesmerized by those eyes, and you know what I did? I just looked back uneasily for a few seconds, then nervously took her hand off my shoulder, shook it a bit, released it and awkwardly smiled. (That even wasn't her last attempt to make me happy against my best efforts ; ended bad anyway.)
I was just thinking about this girl I worked with at a summer camp who suddenly said "you have amazing eyes" while I was talking to her. It was genuinely like two years later until I realized she said that because she was into me. I wasted the whole summer chasing a Dutch girl who, when I asked her at the end why I hadn't gotten anywhere with her, said "I was disappointed in your physique."
Was just realizing this morning that my ex-wife was clearly trying to signal interest in a threesome with another woman.
Thanks for this and fuck my life.
The bedrock of a good relationship is communication. If she wanted to do a threesome, she should’ve just talked to you about it lol
Yeah, for sure. It was complicated. We are (friendly) exes for a reason. Nonetheless, it seems pretty clear in hindsight that I might've had a threesome with two Ukrainian women on several occasions had I not been so special and unaware and...it's just really hard, y'know? It's just really hard.
You’ll get ‘em next time!
those random realizations are the worst, like one day years later realizing that the proper response to a girl inviting you in for beer is not: "no thanks I have had too much yesterday" and then leaving
This reminds me of the time I went home with a lesbian couple after a party, and not realizing they were interested in sex with me, even after dropping hints like repeatedly telling me things like: "You know, we've both been with men before", then while awkwardly watching a movie on their couch they started to undress eachother and make out, and one girl pulling me in to touch her body as the other girl moved to perform cunnilingus on her.
And all I could think was: oh wow I should probably give them some privacy now, I guess it's time to go home.
I once had a girl straight up say, "I'd do you", to which I stumbled and mumbled out nothing much in reply. I don't think I realized until about 5 years later I could have had sex that day :(
She was probably just being nice.
again you really can’t tell, she might be canadian and is just nice as a profession
"Alright, let's do it!"
"Not, like, for REAL. It was a figure of speech. Jesus, creep."
Ha jokes on you i always run away from women
8th grade. A girl tells me in the presence of classmates, “I love youuuu.” I just think it’s a joke/prank so I reply, “I’m too young!” Later she privately asks me if I meant that. It didn’t click for me until high school.
Fresh out of an all-boys high school, so no interaction with girls since 8th grade. Freshman year college, fall semester. Classmate says she’s cold and hooks her arm in mine on the walk to lecture. This happens every day. Another classmate asks if we’re dating, and I say no, she’s just cold.
Same semester, same class, in a lab section, it’s warm. I ask my lab partner (different from arm girl) doesn’t she feel hot, why not take off her sweater. She looks at my and says, “I’m not wearing anything underneath.” Next day in lecture she’s dresssd up really nice and sits next to me.
Every day in this lecture these 3 girls sit with me. My high school buddy who’s also in the class tells me, while we’re studying, he thinks it’s hilarious that I’m surrounded by girls. I shrug it off.
Unfortunately, I think sentiments like these lead so-labeled ugly “creeps” to start seeing false positives.
Just communicate clearly. It’s the safest thing.
The replies in this thread make me feel better for being so oblivious in college.
I still cringe at it but I'm glad I got past it. Again like many of you I don't know how on earth I got married.
That isn't even the slightest true. There hasn't been a single moment in my life where I was in the situation that I talked with a woman outside of them being my classmates(and even then those conversations were mostly questions and the rest being things I or them said in a bigger group). I never had a real conversation with a women so there's absolutely no chance that I missed flirting since there was no situation where flirting could have occurred.
Sitting here writing this I realise how bad my social life/skills are.
If they weren't communicating at my wavelength anyway, it wouldn't have lead to anything 🤷♂️ Natural preselection.
my partner of 3 years was so dense i was worried she was trying to reject me subtly by just not a acknowledging my flirting .
Eventually i had to just say "come over and lets have sex", for her to get it. If we hadnt already known eachother for a decade I wouldve just given up because I wouldnt want to be labeled a creep in my friend group.
Don't worry, just focus on what you missed before and you'll catch the next one
Lies.
or we just eyed each other from afar, but not obviously enough for the other person to notice, and never found an excuse to make closer contact.
I call bs
I can't take it anymore 😭
In high school, we had a science fiction club. I was vice president in my senior year. A year after I graduated, I was hanging out with some fellow graduates and one of them said, "How come you hated Christine so much?"
"Who?"
"Christine Smith. The blonde girl?"
"The blond girl who wore all those surfer shirts?"
"Yeah. Whats so bad about her?"
"Nothing. She was always so quiet. I barely remember her."
"Yeah, well she practically threw herself at you, and you treated her like she didn't exist."
"She did?"
"Yeah. We even tried to make it easy. We set her up at parties to talk to you, and you just acted like she wasn't even there. You were so rude."
"I literally had no idea. I totally would have dated her."
"Yeah, well, too late. She got so depressed after you graduated, that she ended up dropping out of everything and tried to kill herself. Shes been hospitalized and her parents moved away to be with her. Like, couldn't you gave even said hi? Just because you made vice president of the club didn't mean you were better than her or something."
I literally had no idea.
She didn't get depressed because you didn't talk to her, and she wasn't interested in you because you were VP of the science fiction club in high school. It all just sounds so self important even if that's not your intent.
And then everybody clapped, question mark?
Because if it were true, those colleagues were stupid AF not picking up that you weren't picking up. Or that they tried to force the romance, clearly leading her into depression.
So I call BS, sorry.
This... is surprisingly familiar...
