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[-] Beth@piefed.social 1 points 1 hour ago

Honestly… really…being born. You know that scene in Love through a prism where the world is gray for her at all times? Thats how I have experienced life for decades. Therapy doesn’t fix it, and medicine doesn’t abate it. Every once in a while I see or smell something that gives me a fleeting joy. But it’s just like…you know.

[-] Malyca@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 hour ago

Bringing my kids into this horror show

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 hour ago

Ooof, this one hit me in the gut. Me too.

[-] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 7 hours ago

Not buying Bitcoin in 2010 when a friend first told me about it.

[-] gingersaffronapricat@lemmy.world 4 points 6 hours ago

Ohhh. Several. I regret not feeling comfortable enough to ask for help outside of my household when I was young. I regret rushing through college as fast as I could. I had a deep fear of getting stuck in school and accumulating debt. So i got through it as quickly as i could. I now think i might have much better employment prospects if i were to take some more time and take some different courses. Either one of those could have been life changing. Better or worse. It’s hard to say

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works 9 points 12 hours ago

I regret the man I chose to father my child. He left me to flounder during the baby years and I should've known from previous experience that he would do so. It almost killed me.

It's one of those situations that I try to give my past self grace for because my son is amazing and I didn't have the strength and knowledge then that I do now.

[-] applebusch 17 points 15 hours ago

its basically i regret not transitioning sooner, but my biggest regret is wasting so much time acting like an introvert. i spent so much time at home doing stuff basically to pass the time rather than going out and taking social risks. i could have been doing everything i dreamed of that whole time even if it was scary. maybe i would have found myself sooner if i did idk. but im not sure i would have been able to before i started transitioning.

[-] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 12 points 14 hours ago

Not letting fear run your life was my uncle's dying advice to me. He spent years not doing things because of fear. He didn't want me to do the same since we're very similar. This year I left everyone and everything I knew behind, drove 16 hours, and started a new life with someone I met on discord. Probably not exactly what he meant but, it's the first time I've felt like I'm free to be myself.

Proud of you friend, you're doing it. Better late than never!

[-] Domi 22 points 16 hours ago

I should have transitioned years ago 😭

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 13 points 15 hours ago

I discovered my love of running way too late!

[-] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 7 points 14 hours ago

I've tried several times. I want to love running. I hate it so so much. I'm so glad you found something you love!

[-] AcidBurn@retrofed.com 6 points 6 hours ago

Me too. It feels like unpleasant punishment.

Cycling is much more my jam

[-] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 hours ago

Cycling always felt like something I should enjoy, but I just never found that spark. I used to ride a lot when I was in the office 5 days a week, but aside from my commute, I never touched the bike.

[-] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 9 points 14 hours ago

Staying wayyy to long not in one but two toxic relationships. I guess low self-esteem and fear of being alone will do that to a gal.

I would also put "not transitioning earlier" but... ok I am not sure if this is a controversal/kinda woo-woo esoteric take but I honestly believe that if I had known earlier that I am trans, I would have died. Either because the region I grew up in being infested with Nazi scum would have gotten me or ... well myself for knowing, not being able to do anything about it for years and years and seeing me turn into this grotesque form that should have never been.
So yeah. I think my brain was protecting me from that. Unfortunately I plunged myself into that second toxic relationship, got married and then it was almost constant stress too, so apparently that didn't feel safe for my brain either. Even tho looking back I could have done it, I think... well, what are ten years huh? (a lot, it's a fucking lot and I am slightly salty)

[-] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 8 points 14 hours ago

Your feelings are valid. One of the best things I ever read that makes me more at peace with my past self is "you did the best you could at the time with the knowledge and resources you had. If you had better knowledge and better resources, you would've done better. But you didn't, so you couldn't." And that allows me to give past me a lot more grace. Could I be further ahead? IDK. I made the choices I made with the knowledge I had and I'm here now.

[-] TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.works 17 points 17 hours ago

Not fucking telling anyone when i was 12

"oh, but it came out of the blue!"

Shut up, mother

[-] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 10 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Sending you and 12 year old you some hugs

[-] TechieDamien@lemmy.ml 11 points 17 hours ago

I feel this one

[-] AcidBurn@retrofed.com 10 points 18 hours ago

Just the one?

If I had to pick a single one, it would be walking alone at night through a city, when I was 19 and not streetwise.

[-] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 7 hours ago

Eesh. Is it insensitive for me to hope that you got mugged?

[-] AcidBurn@retrofed.com 4 points 6 hours ago

I don't think that's a bad thing to hope for, no

this post was submitted on 06 Aug 2026
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